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I'm at my breaking point ... I wake up shaking, trembling, thoughts racing, stomach discomfort, etc. This has gotten too hard for me. I don't know what else to do. No matter what I try to take it doesn't help me. My body seem so fragile and weak, because I've lost weight . I hate the way that I look. We are getting ready to go out of town but I don't want to go because i don't want to be around people and I don't like the way I look. I am 5 days away from what should be a period , Its been 4 months since Ive had one, and the longer the miserable i am. My hands and body are just shaking as i type this. I am so depressed and i don't know how to come out of it. Just seeing others celebrating the holiday makes it worse, I want to do the same but i can't because of these symptoms daily.

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    im right there with you. anxiety, havent gotten a period this month, woozy, weak, have this pressure in my upper right rib cage just had an upper abdomnile ultrasound all was fine, except i have a little gallbladder sludge had an echocardigram that was fine thank god. i have horrible health anxiety which doesnt help. my bloodwork was fine. my stomach is hard as a rock. im 49 and every day its something new with my body having people over the house tonight and i have no desire to entertain. Want to be inthe xmas mood but just want it over sorry for ranting

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    Mary.... You've got this. I know exactly how you feel, and the holidays just seem to make it harder because of the pressure to have fun, when really we are wondering how the hell to make it through each day. I'm running a mantra through my head today, cos I'm the same shaking, anxious, hot flashes etc. My mantras are:

    • I am strong in body and mind
    • this will pass
    • I know what it is so no need to be afraid
    • just keep swimming

    You are strong Mary and you're gonna be absolutely fine I promise. Deep breaths, xx

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    I completely understand what you are going through Mary. I have been at a breaking point more times than I could count. Even though there isn't really a way to fix all of this, it is important to recognize that however terrible and unbearable the symptoms are, they are temporary, even though it doesn't feel that way, when they are happening.

    Try to focus on the fact that you have gone four months since your last period: a sign that you are nearing the end. From what I have read, the closer you are to reaching menopause, the worse the physical and psychological symptoms become, so try to see this as a positive. You are getting there, and you will get there.

    I also know how awful it can be to have to cope with social situations when you feel like you are coming undone. Try to just focus on the present moment, start to breathe in and out, and focus on your breath. Remember, every second that ticks by takes you that little bit closer to all of this being over.

    One day, you will be fully restored, and then you will truly appreciate how beautiful life is. Only this kind of experience could give you that. In the meantime, take care of yourself in the best way that you can. Also, reach out to family and friends to help you to cope. People who love you will want to help you.

    You are so strong. Just look at how you have kept going, even though you are dealing with so many awful thoughts, feelings, and sensations.

    One day, you will be looking at this through the rear view mirror, with the understanding that you had the strength and perseverance to make it through.


    Bev xo

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    Great advice Sassy.

    I too am dreading this day...even with my 2 young children because I wish I felt great, had no worries and want to ENJOY this holiday season. unfort. that is not facts. I spend so much time worrying about all the symptoms I have, how I can't breath and how I feel and how it sucks.

    I am with you mary. Hang in there and use some of Sassy's mantras. I do alot of self talk also to keep myself sane. I wish you the best Mary and everyone. You can get through this. Thinking of you.

    Peace to us.

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    Update: I think in addition to perimenopause I am coming down with something. My grandson had a virus/flu and I think I may have caught it from him. I am miserable. The sad thing is I can't take too much of anything because of my gut issues, and food/supplements allergies. I have a fever of 101.2

    I feel so so bad... i only wished i could go to sleep but the peri has me wired up and heart palps are crazy. Why is my heart thumping so hard and nonstop? Lord help me!! Anyone have any suggestions on what I can take?

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    I have had this awful anxiety also in the past. Unfortunately I gained weight instead of lost, but felt the same, exhausted, overwhelmed, shaky, sick stomach, distressed. I started seeing a psychologist and doing meditative walks in the morning. I have done all kinds of herbs. Holy Basil has helped me the most. I feel lately that I have been pretty good. I used progesterone cream and it has helped. I am so thankful to be out of that lost, awful feeling. I hope you too start to feel better. One day at a time. 😃

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