need help

Hi Allison

whats going on exactly? What are your symptoms? Have you seen a doctor?

How can I help?

alison 

theres plenty of supplements that ease symptoms, I can help you with what they are..

lots of nice ladies on here too, so let us know whats happening, how your symptoms are affecting you exactly ..

jay x

Hi Ali,

          I know exactly what you mean, it just comes from nowhere (well so it seems). Dreadful time for a woman. This site is great, you'll get superb support on here, and advice to suggest things which will help you. Vitamins, exercise (i personally think this helps, I realise you don't feel like it) but I am persevering because I know that it energises the body and mind, I can't do what I did before which is so frustrating so currently I use Mr Motivators video. I am so sorry about your Mum, take care of YOURSELF at this time, do things you like, I am thinking about you. We will try to help you get through this

                                                                                     Mrs Merm

hi all thank you for your replies.

at this time the physical symptoms are not extream, head aches are getting progressively worse, afew aches and pains in alsorts of different places. not realy sure what to expect. i have googled it but not realy much from real people. it all seems very generic and seems to me that its more than likely written by a men who has no idea how emotional and physical affects of the menopause affects a woman.

i do have another appointment with a female doctor in a couple of weeks which seems like a lifetime away. i'll try the vitamins. which ones should i get multi with or without iron?

right now i dont know what to expect, i know every woman is different and what happens to one person won't necessarily happen to the next. its just a scary time. the worst thing for me right now is straingly the emotional side of it, i think im still in shock over the whole thing. i'm completally devastated. im sure you all have felt the same as i do so don't need to tell you how i'm feeling and all the irational thoughts thats running around inside my head. gggrrr. i do exercise quite a bit but dont realy feel like it now just want to lock myself away untill its all over.

thank you for your support

Hello Alison ,I'm sorry your mum has passed.i was 31 when my mum died ,hit my menopause at 48 ,I understand how you need your mum ,this is a confusing time ,felt lost when mine began ,

 looking back I'd now wished I'd spoken to my mums sisters ,but i was away from my home town ,that was a big mistake not asking them about my mum and her menopause .

 Hope you get answers ,do say what they are .once known the help will be forth coming .Lots on site are in same boat.xx

Hi there, likewise, I am 44 and suddenly felt really weird two weeks ago.  Spaced out, forgetful, anxious.  Just weird.  Doctor hasn't confirmed it's perimenopause as I have a previous oestrogen problem, but reading entries on this site ang general googling, I reckon it probably is.  I understand how you are feeling, the realisation of getting older is very daunting. You might want to think about some kind of therapy if you think that might work for you.  But like many others, I have found great comfort in the support from this group, as I am sure you will too.  Hang on in there xxx

thank you Marlene and bubbins.

yes i have found compfort in you all. i think the shock is starting to were off a bit now. i'v had a good old fashoned bottle of vodka a big bar of chocolate and a B***** good cry. which i think i realy needed.

i have no one around me that i feel that i could talk to about this.  so i am extreamly happy that i stumbled upon this sight as i know if i need to vent i can do it on here and would be completally understood and not judged for it as we are all going through the same thoughts and feelings. well that is if thats allowed. am i allowed to have a rant and vent on here if i need to???