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NEED OPINIONS ON HERPES SCARE, DESPERATE

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jessica74726
jessica74726

Okay this will be long. So not even a week ago I lost my virginity and when we first did it it HURT. As soon as we did it I felt a tear or like a cut between my vagina hole and where my butt hole started it was directly under my vagina not on it. Me being stupid I didn't look at it so I have no idea what it looked like but I thought it was just a tear. We kept trying to have sex and even got rough and we had to stop because I told him it felt like it was ripping more so we did and it was healing on its own. This all happened on Thursday night I went to the forgot Tuesday for a regular culture bc I've been getting infections from where I workout and all these other things and also to get on birth control like I had no thought in my mind that I had herpes anyways the practitioner (not even a real doctor) tells me she's going to scrape my "cut" to do a culture and I'm like okay cool. She comes back and tells me she did that because it looked like it could be herpes. I'm in shock I wasn't expecting it at all I had had sex not even a week ago! I've read so many posts and what I am experiencing does not sound like herpes. I have no pain, no burning, no itching that I haven't had before. He has no signs and I've given him oral sex before so you'd think I would've gotten it sooner. To me it was just a cut or tear that we made worse because hello I was a virgin now only was he big we got super rough and fast at one point. I went to my regular doctor today she isn't a gynecologist but she told me it does not sound like herpes she said she has never heard of someone having an outbreak within 24 or 48 hours and that cut was there within maybe 12 hours. Even after the culture I peed just fine. Anyways my real doctor said she really doesn't think its herpes bc of how fast its come on. I don't have any blisters whatsoever and it's literally that one cut. I haven't taken any medicine and it's healing fine. I need people with GH to please give me their opinion. I have a newfound respect for all of you who have it and I will keep you all in my prayers. I'm 20 years old and I thought I was being responsible having sex with someone I love and this turned out to be a nightmare because had I not gone to the doctor and let it heal I would have never even thought it was herpes. I live in a small town I also figured any girls Hes been with would have already came out and told him they have it so he could get checked again. I don't get my results until about another 5 days so I am going crazy. Any feedback will help. Thank you!

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  • FelizCastus
    FelizCastus jessica74726

    Posted

    Since you noticed the pain/tear almost immediately while having sex, and given that you're a virgin, etc., I doubt it is herpes as well.

    However, for your future reference, a first-time herpes outbreak can come on as early as a day or two (but not sooner), does not have to have all of the symptoms you mentioned, and can be passed by someone without obvious symptoms.

    Also, you giving oral sex is not a risk factor for acquiring genital herpes, but receiving oral sex or having genital-to-genital contact (in particular sexual intercourse) with an infected person are. Condoms reduce the risk of the latter, but only by about 50%.

    In this instance, given what you said, I'm sure you are fine. smile As I noted, the above is fyi only. In the meantime, just let the tear heal and go a bit more gently the next time.

    • jessica74726
      jessica74726 FelizCastus

      Posted

      I really hope that's what it is! I'm still super scared because I've realized everything you said AFTER I got tested. I never knew as much about herpes as I do now and I wish I was more informed. Now all I can do is pray hope for the best and let others know how misinformed they are as well so I can maybe save someone else from this! Thank you so much for your reply you have put my mind at ease a bit.
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus jessica74726

      Posted

      You're most welcome! Yeah, unfortunately most people are not aware of how deceptive and tricky herpes can be, myself included, until after I was diagnosed and researched the topic like crazy. Kinda a bit late and after the fact, lol, but that shouldn't be the case for you at least. smile Good luck and keep us posted of your results!
    • jessica74726
      jessica74726 FelizCastus

      Posted

      Just wanted to give you an update! I got a call from my doctor and I came back negative for everything. I'm so happy and feel so thankful. I'm sorry that you didn't have the same luck but this is definitely an eye opener. Thank you for your kind words and God bless you.
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus jessica74726

      Posted

      That's great news!! And though expected, what a big relief it must be for you! :D I'm glad you also learnt about herpes through this experience, as awareness will hopefully keep you better protected. Just go a bit easier on the sex at first!
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