Need some advice feel like Im going to crack
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Hi there everyone I haven't posted on here in awhile as I have been doing pretty good for the most part. I have had some sadness and crying issues here and there but they haven't been too bad. That is until this past sunday, I was feeling really good and then my husband got sick on Saturday with a stomach bug/flu and it set my anxiety off the wall on sunday. I am making things more than what they are, and thinking the worst. I had a hugh crying breakdown sunday night and then again on Monday. Well its now Wednesday, he is still sick and I feel like im going to crack. My head tells me its the flu, he is getting a little better, and this will pass but the rest of me is freaking out. My inside feel like they are shaking, I don't want to eat, I just want to sit in the corner and cry. I was wondering if anyone had and help on how to calm myself during this time while he is sick. Thanks Im sorry if this is confusing.
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janver12 amy602
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Hi Amy.It sounds like because you are worrying so much About your husband being poorly you are triggering really bad anxiety. I find it hard when loved ones are sick and I go into panic and anxiety mode.Its a horrible feeling and something that takes over you. You just want them to be better as our minds go into overdrive! It's hard to reason with yourself when you feel this way but I understand.Your husband you say is getting a little better so find comfort in that if you can.Try and help yourself with breathing excersise to calm and relax you.Anyone else about you can talk to and get some reassurance from.?Sometimes it helps. I go very anxious if my kids(who are in their 20's) say they don't feel well I go very anxious,stomach kicks off, head fog migraine.... the list is endless.May be eating little and often might make you feel better. Have you any medication to take to relax you ? I think our bodies behave like that as we aren't in control of a situation so we panic and we just want them better. There is nothing we can do apart from be there for them when they are ill and help. Gosh it's hard I know. If you don't feel any better in yourself go and see your gp but I bet as soon as your husband is improving you too should feel better.xx
amy602 janver12
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Hi Thanks for your advice. I have not been put on any medication to help me relax, Im not a fan of rx meds. The only thing that I have been taking for the past 9 months is birth control to help. I am going to OBGYN this Friday and going to have him change the pill as I think that may help after a lot of advice I have gotten from here. I am hoping that will make some difference. Once I got home last night and saw that hubby was pretty much better and almost back to normal I calmed down right away (you were correct) and was pretty good for the whole night. This am when I woke up for work and for a little while this am I have a little anxiety feeling thinking that he is still sick (which I know will pass later on today) I cannot wait till all this is behind me. Its been a very long year.... Hopefully I don't have too much longer. Prayers and Hugs.
sarah39816 amy602
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Hi Amy,
I understand your feelings. I have been struggling with a whole array of emotions for quite awhile. Today I'm enjoying some pretty wicked panic attacks. Very scary. I do think when you have a loved one who isn't feeling well it can increase your anxiety (this does happen to me when my husband isn't feeling well or my parents are ill). I think it's a very natural cause and effect. Try to slow down, take some deep breaths and think about how you feel when your head is clear and you feel like yourself. I really do believe it is hormonal and anything that is slightly unsettling (like your husband being sick) can set off the anxiety. Try to eat some small meals and focus on your breathing.
I do agree with Janver, I think once your husband is on the mend, you will start to feel better, too. Hang in there. Everything will be fine. It just doesn't feel like it right now. You will feel better! Hugs--Sarah
amy602 sarah39816
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gilly_64426 amy602
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If it helps. Take every day with a smile. Try going for a walk, soak in the tub and read a book.
I enjoy watching reruns of the old shows such as there's company. I found these types of comedy without laugh tracks just make me feel better.
Your not alone but life is beautiful . Not sure where u live but I'm enjoying the fall colours and brisk fall air. Warm sunshine on my face and going to work and just talking to my co workers then at home enjoying the different stories my kids tell me about their day at school.
My husband is the biggest kid in the house and honestly he has a lot to do with my mood😑he not understanding the changes that I'm going thru and choose not to listen.
amy602 gilly_64426
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I love your ideas. I live in the US on the east and it soon will start changing seasons into fall ( I love fall) so that is a positive thought. I try so hard to try and keep my mind occupied because then I find my bad days aren't that bad, but here and there its so hard to do. I really cant wait until this is all behind me and I become a new version of the old me. ( I hope that makes sense)
anetta94863 amy602
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juanita93228 amy602
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Oh. Lord do I get it! I think when your hubby feels better maybe you will feel better. I'm not married but I suffer from such awful health anxiety. I every pain is some of death sentence. I pray and try to push through knowing that it's alright. I fake it 'til I make it. For instance I go to the movies, concerts, and dinner with friends. A friend is taking me on a day trip for my birthday. I laugh, but in the back of mind, it's like "what if something bad happens"? When did I go from fearless and carefree to worrying about everything? I feel like if I have fun or really enjoy myself it's because it's the end. Lol!!!
Amy, just pray, meditate, and be kind to yourself, and realize there are millions of women going through the same thing. I'm at the up and down stage. Monday and Tuesday were fine, but today(Wednesday)I could barely drag myself out of bed to go to work. I absolutely understand why women(if they can afford it) quit working at this stage in their lives. But for me if I didn't have work, I would probably go nuts! Much love to you and this does get better(it has to). Lol!