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Needing advice for dealing with intrusive thoughts

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john47751
john47751

I'm very new to dealing with Anxiety and its many issues. Over the past couple of weeks, thanks to the advice of many here I've gotten allot better. On a scale of 1 to 10 ( With 10 being the worst ) when I first came here I was feeling like a 10 but a couple of weeks later I feel more like an 8.

My problem now is the " intrusive thoughts ". I've never had problems with this or anxiety until a few months ago and what advice I've been given  here has helped with the Anxiety abit ( I know this is a long process lol ) but the intrusive thoughts are still there and it bothers me abit at times.

Is there any advice anyone here can give me on quelling the intrusive thoughts ?

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  • deirdre._03652
    deirdre._03652 john47751

    Posted

    Hi John...good morning to you, I hope that you are well today....have you seen your GP.,,.to get help and medication....

    One tip from AA PUT ABOUT ELASTIC BAND ON YOUR WRIST,...WHEN YOUR THOUGHTS ARE INTRUSIVE,,,,,PING IT HARD ON YOUR WRIST !!!! IT CAN HELP...

    But please . Please see your GP....I wish you so, so much good luck peace of mind, and happiness....

    Sincere regards to you always ....dee xxx

  • Sillymop
    Sillymop john47751

    Posted

    I personally couldn't get on with the elastic band method, simply because you are still telling yourself that a thought is 'wrong' and you want to 'snap out of it'.

    This does work for some and so I always think whatever works best is good..

    For me, what really worked was in just realising that thoughts are just thoughts.

    Thoughts that are intrusive and uncomfortable, that raise our stress levels, fear levels...are still just thoughts.

    We notice these thoughts, as we notice every single one of our thoughts, but we do not need to focus on it and we do not need to place any importance on the thought.

    We simply let it be and let it pass.

    You cannot stop thoughts - you just don't need to 'act on them.'

    Whatever these thoughts may be. They are only thoughts.

    The issue comes from the importance we give them..and the anxiety breeds from our reaction.

  • lisalisa67
    lisalisa67 john47751

    Posted

    Seriosuly understand and get thoughts are thoughts. You do not have to empower them as truth. Acknowledge the thought ..as a thought and note theres no need to react to it. Its not so much the thought thats the problem it is that you empower it, believe it and react to it. Cbt and dbt are useful forms of therapies that work well woth dismantling intrusive thoughts 
  • john47751
    john47751

    Posted

    I really want to thank all of you for taking the time to offer me advice. Its a very scary and confusing time for me and knowing there are people here willing to help, helps me ease my worries abit.

    I am seeing a councelor today and I hope that goes well.

  • borderriever
    borderriever john47751

    Posted

    Can you tell us john what your intrusive thoughts are ? 

    Do you know why you feel the way you do ??.

    To know your reason can help you pull out of your pit.

    BOB

    • john47751
      john47751 borderriever

      Posted

      Its really tough to admit but it deals with what some may refer to as "militant feminism". I do want to state for the record that I have no problem with feminism itself but some that seem extremely vocal about men and say very anti male things like "all men were born to rape" or "men are hardwired to take advantage of women". It really started to effect me do to the fact that I have nothing but respect for women and I've treated them with nothing but respect.

      My intrusive thoughts come from the fear that I've developed over the last few months. I've almost started to fear women in general and the thoughts of them thinking I'm what the "militants" think I am.

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