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susan58797
susan58797

My bf had a sore at the base of his penis, had sex with me THEN tells me about the sore, him thinking it was from a cut. 3 days later I get the bumps then the sores. I go to urgent care and the NP says it looks like herpes and does bloodwork....no swab. I didn't know about the swab test. She puts me on the meds and 1 week later the sores clear up. All labs are negative. Then I get a case of shingles down there...no blisters just all of the pain so I continue taking the meds for that. I finally get to see my ob/gyn. He does a swab test for all of the STD'S and I show him a picture of my bf's sore. He says it looks like a classic herpes sore. The cultures are not back yet. My question is if I had already been on the meds and the OB was already cleared up, would the culture still find the virus? Yes, I'm feeling like my life is over now and this sorry excuse for a man bolted when I told him that I think he gave that to me. He wouldn't go to the dr. Also, does it sound like this us something he gave me? Woyld I get an OB that quickly? We had been together for 2 months.

BTW, these duscussions have been helpful in getting me through this because I am going through this alone now. Thank you all fir being so supportive.

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  • Kalypso
    Kalypso susan58797

    Posted

    Yeah, it took a week till I got all the symptoms. The swab is only valid if they took enough sample. Ignore the blood tests. It takes 2 weeks-6 months to show. Mine came out negative 2 weeks after exposure but culture said I had hsv2.

    Yeah, those are immature guys for you. They refuse to go to the dr. And are in denial. So they keep spreading it and they keep their distance from you till they disappear.

    They know they had it but their playing dumb. Thanks for the gift buddy.

    • susan58797
      susan58797 Kalypso

      Posted

      Really! I have to work with this douchbag. I took a chance with him thinking he would at least not be an ass if it didn't work out. I never expected him to give me the gift that just keeps giving.
  • Chick100
    Chick100 susan58797

    Posted

    I've been searching investigating for the last 1.5 year trying to find who did it to me well it's a waste of time people just not honest
    • cartercali
      cartercali Chick100

      Posted

      1.5 years isn't long at all.. That many sex partners to where you don't know for sure ?

      You're a male ?

      That's crazy I always thought it was a low percentage of males that get it from females . Sorry you are going through this .

      How long have you had the disease ?

  • cartercali
    cartercali susan58797

    Posted

    Hey Susan sorry about your infection ...

    I know and understand exactly what you are going through. Initially it doesn't take long for some type of symptom to come about .,

    It's best that you just get a swab and know the full criteria of everything..

    It's messed up that you are going through this and you were in complete blind with the disease.. I went through the same thing ever so often I still get a little depressed and feel like my life and especially my sex life is over .

    You currently taking suppressive medicine ?

    I can say this honestly taught me something . I think things through fully when I'm out and m about ..

    It's harder to Come out and tell someone you have herpes , especially since it's not a everyday topic ..

    Things will smooth over and please know and understand , God wouldn't put you through it if he didn't think you could make it .

    • susan58797
      susan58797 cartercali

      Posted

      Thank you Carter. Right now I'm on Valtrex 500mg twice a day for the shingles fir a month. Waiting on the cultures to come back I guess. I'm not opposed to suppressve therapy. Does it eventually become ineffective?
    • cartercali
      cartercali susan58797

      Posted

      To be honest I don't take suppressive medicine ... I wanted to see how an outbreak would come about without it .. I think I have had mild reoccurrences but not a full blown outbreak yet...

      The person that infected me never once let it be known that they had it .. So my depression is beyond recognition and I've this virus for about 3 months or so ...

      You will never get over it , just learn to deal with

      .

      Did you get your results back yet ?

      What did they say ??

    • susan58797
      susan58797 cartercali

      Posted

      IgG and IgM both came back negative. My cultures, taken after the ulcers healed up, we're also negative. I'm going to retest in a month to see if I've developed any antibodies. I'm hoping it wad just shingles. Unfortunate and unlikely area, but I'm a 1%er. Lol. Seriously! If it can happen to only 1% of the population, it will happen to me.
  • Cupidxo
    Cupidxo susan58797

    Posted

    How did they know it was shingles? I've never had shingles down there. Just on my back area. I thought mine were shingles too. My swab tested positive but ny bloodwork said negative. You should get retested in 4 to 6 weeks to make sure. For your sanity. Sorry he bolted, he wasn't a real man then. You don't need that in your life. Let him be in denial and naive. At least your doing what your suppose to do. I'm sorry were all in this together!
    • susan58797
      susan58797 Cupidxo

      Posted

      I had shingled, again without the blisters only a rash, in April if last year. It follows a nerve path. There is no test for it but I took Valtrex and the pain went away, then I stopped it and the pain came back. That was my test. I did the same this time. I got a radiating pain from my crotch (sit bones area) that radiated into my posterior thighs. It started after I finished my 10 days on 1 MG if Valtrex twice a day. Now I have stabbing pains in my lower abdomen. My dr said he thinks it's shingles too, secondary to herpes due to stress. With shingles I stay on the meds for 30 days.
  • alejandra53512
    alejandra53512 susan58797

    Posted

    So sorry to hear this happened to you. I had symptoms only 3 days after having sex with this guy who also wasnt going ti tell me had something going on down there.

    He was aware that he has symptoms of some sort but wasnt going to tell me about it. I had to ask and confront him.

    Hope your feeling better its not as bad as everyone makes it seem

    • Cupidxo
      Cupidxo alejandra53512

      Posted

      Mine said he had "friction burn" if you have it then tell someone and at least use a condom...smh hate liars
    • susan58797
      susan58797 alejandra53512

      Posted

      Thank you for replying. I'm feeling an overwhelming need to tell this guy something but I know it will be useless. He's in complete denial and is putting others at risk. We work in the medical field and he thinks this can be cured. It's scary.
  • FelizCastus
    FelizCastus susan58797

    Posted

    Sorry this happened to you, and what a jerk! Fyi, a viral culture swab only works on new lesions. A pcr swab works on older lesions, but you still need lesions/symptoms of some kind. Yes, it's possible to develop symptoms in a day to a week. Negative blood tests means you weren't infected before him, so he gave it to you. You should go off the meds so that you can develop antibodies, then you can do the IgG blood test again at 3 months to confirm the type you have.
    • susan58797
      susan58797 FelizCastus

      Posted

      Thank you for that info! As soon as the shingles pain clears I'll stop the meds and get retested.
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus susan58797

      Posted

      No problem! Fyi, the shingles pain is likely just pain from the herpes. Related viruses, related symptoms. For some people, genital herpes can cause shooting nerve pain, tingling and/or itching, etc.
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