New and feel sad today :(

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Thanks for your words of wisdom. I wholly agree - just on a downer day which was bound to strike any time soon as was happier for a couple of days. Know my depression all too well I have actually motivated my self to heat the water so in about an hour I will have a bath and hair wash then will do this morning's dishes - its not much but its a start. Maybe I'll feel like doing the hoovering at midnight luckily my neighbour is very deaf- I have hoovered nate at night before

It's really hard I know. What can seem to be little things to others take major effort for someone who's depressed. I've had this illness for many years and it's horrible to live with. You are not alone though; this forum has helped me a lot in the short time I have been using it and everyone seems very helpful and understanding

It is very hard to motivate yourself when your feeling depressed. People just don't understand how hard things can be. Just having a shower or bath is a struggle sometimes. Hope your feeling a bit better this evening.

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Thanks - yeah the forum has helped lots - am a bit happier now

I know how awful it is, have been there. I dragged myself forward with a lot of difficulty by giving myself things to look forward to. It might be something as simple as having a cup of tea or trying to read a book. I also remember that sitting there trying to watch tv or read a book was hard because the concentration had all gone.

Your so right carmel. Everything is an effort. Concentration is a difficult thing when depression hits you. It's a good job I like football. It's taken my mind off the depression at times! 

Lol - not the footie but hey each to thier own I myself find a bit of F1 works for me 

Best wishes 

I find family guy helps me

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Smiling now at the support on here and laughing at the fairy elephant sparrows running about on the roof againe for little birds they are so noisy

Thanks

thats better! :-)

I find that helps a lot too Julie.

Hi 

 Yeah it does suck at times. Sorry to hear about or partner sounds like u had a lovely life together. 

With animals I find they let u be yourself. No judgement just to be. I am planning on getting some ferrets soon - they are quite comical creaturese I often cheer myself up going on youtube and looking at the silly things animals get up to. 

Blessings  to you x

Like all animals and hate anything to do with neglect or cruelty to them. People can be demanding selfish and dishonest where animals never are. People do not understand when you say you have no friends. I said about how I do not have a friend to go with me to hospital for a proceedure and people say well get someone to go with you or you must hve a friend who can go or change it to a different day when you have a friend who can go. Which is ignoring it when you say YOU HAVE NO FRIENDS.

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Hugs

Yeah for the animals

I know what you mean about people. They often just don't listen or don't understand, especially those who have lots of people in their lives.

Its a pity hospitals were not more understanding and let us take our well behaved animals with us - people would get better faster I think. And would be calmer for ops. 

If u ever just want a wee chat feel free to msg me when I am not working I am very much attatched to the web through my phone

You can feel free to do that tgoo Ninja. My name is Carmel and thanks. I understand what you mean about people.

I get sick and tired of people trying to advise me when I say I am lonely. They say go to clubs and groups. Like I am so stupid I would not have thought of it. But I have been to the clubs and groups and the people there are twice my age and in wheelchairs. They want me to go around to their house to do their ironing and weed the garden.

That is not friendship. I have enough to do with looking after my own house and gardens, working, and animals, wwithout going to do it for others too. They can pay someone to go and do these things for them but are trying to save money.

I do get fed up with people who have huge families and loads of friends saying they are lonely. They have no idea.

I can go for a month without seeing anyone at all.

Like the idea of our animals being allowed into the hospital but think it would cause too much chaos and noise and dogs weeing and pooing everywhere! It may sound silly but when I go to hospital soon I am taking a photo of two of my dogs with me. And when my health is better I will arrange to have some photos of me and my four dogs taken together. Please do not ever feel that you must be interrupted if you are watching tv, working or with someone or whatever if I mail you, always take your time before responding.

Hi Carmel

My name is Nina. That sounds lovely to go a month without seeing people. 

Yeah I suppose in reality pics of pets in hospital its better than actual ones

Best wishes that ur health improves and u get that lovely pic with ur dogs

Many thanks

Hi Nina, love your name by the way. It can be lonelyto go a month without seeing anyone (other than postman or shop assistant). But it is better than being with people I dont like. When I feel better and am more in the mood will sort out some photos of the dogs, you can see one of them in the litle picture on the left, Jefrey.

I am a dog lover too and couldn't be without them

Hi Carmel

Thanks and hope you feel better soon

Jeffery looks cute - I gather he is a chinese crested?

If I did not have the work comitements I do I would have dogs but I will have them when not working so much. Hence the choice of ferrets - still fun, and trainable but not so demanding of time

Your dogs must be great company for you but yes I know what you mean it can be nice to speak to a likeable human on occasion 

Same here, got four babies, lovely things.

Yes a chinese crested hairless. Can see what you mean about work, would not be fair to them if they are stuck indoors not seing you most of the time, shows you are a caring person that you put them first. They are good company but they can't send me a birthday card or cheer me up with my favourite meal or hand my paw (hand).

Hi - so true but you have this forum too and even though we can only chat and send e hugs it is better than nothing

To me it is better than meeting people if there is no closeness with the people, no talking about things that matter. When Ive been somewherre in a crowd and they talk about the weather etc to me it is pointless and boring. I much prefer 1 21 and talking about things that matter.

Know what u mean - we be like peas in a pod in our people and pet feelings

One of the things I love to do most of all is be in the back gardenwhen it is sunny but njot too hot, no phone ringing, no distractions, no visitors, watching the dogs run around and play and sitting on my lap , licking myface etc. With a cup of tea and a snack, some magazines or books, nice music and beautiful flowers.

Sounds lovely  

Me when I'm not playing a rather addictive city building phone game I love a bit of reading or taming my rather wild garden or just window shopping down the high street - I am pretty anonymous as l only know a handful of people in the town and they are mainly my partners family but I like being able to shop unmolested by people and not even worry about buying anything - just having a wander and a nosy

But I haven't done much of that in a while - between work and battling the depression I was trying to deny I felt creeping upon me I have just been zombie watching the tele or napping a lot after work. 

I am determined to get a grip and #tart enjoying life again bit by bit

I am addicted to bejewelled 3.