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Hi all....I was diagnosed with herpes in 2013. Me and my husband split and I met a man who promised me the world. Any way to cut a long story short he gave me herpes..but never admitted giving it to me. So I don't know if it is type 2 from sex or type 1from oral sex if he had previously had cold sores.at the same time I had a whitlow on my finger so my gp did say my genital herpes could be either from that or std from partner. I have only had one outbreak down below since I contracted it which was last week.

I'm struggling to understand as I have now gone out in a cold sore on my mouth!! sad virtually the day after my genital outbreak had gone!!

I'm now wondering if I just have type 1 and j have spread it around my body?? But then reading on Google it says you can't do that??

Anyone to offer any guidance as I'm really stressing out over this?? sad

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    *Come out with a cold sore

    I've read once you have one type of herpes it's very hard to get the other one??

    I haven't kissed anyone apart from my husband and kids lol.....but what's annoyed me is that it appeared the second my outbreak down below went!! Surely it can't be a coincide? Has this happened before to anyone??

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      Leo1981, I'm very sorry this has happened to you.. I understand the betrayal all too well. It doesn't sound like your outbreak was too bad and that's a good thing. The only way to know for sure, is to be tested. However, based on info you provided, it does sound like the highest probability is hsv 1 from oral sex and kissing. Is it true that you cab get hsv 1 (oral) on your genitals? Yes, this is true. Can you get hsv 2 (typically known as hsv 2) orally? Very unlikely and very, very rare. I think there are very few cases and they were immune compromises patients such as AIDS patience... I think there is like a hand full world wide only of this happenin. See, both simplexes have a preference for home base. Hsv 1 going to the ganglia in the nerve below the ear/jaw and hsv 2 being the sacral ganglia (nerves at the tailbone). Hsv1 when contracted genitally is less aggressive, very few obs (ob means outbreaks) and not as severe. However, hsv1 is the one that causes whitlow (herpes on the finger). Hsv1 is much more versatile in the locations it can spread than hsv2. Hsv1 and 2, but not as likely 2 can smbe spread anywhere else if you're touching the sore and rubbing your skin afterwards. Make sure to always wash your hands before you touch your eyes. Herpes in the eye is no joke. Heroes has a preference for mucous membrane skin.

      As far as getting herpes and being less prove to another simplex, well.. There's more to it. There is a chance you can get both genitally, buy typically they have found if you have hsv 2 genitally, it keeps you safe from hsv1. With that said, it doesn't work the other way around for some reason, except orally. I think hsv2 is more aggressive, which creates a greater immune response, hence providing protection from hsv1 below if you already have hsv 2. I do have hsv 1 orally sinfebi was 22 from my ex husband and have never tested positive for hsv1. I got hsv 2 genitally this past July and I test positive for hsv 2, but still not hsv1.

      Your partner either spread it to your orally or he could very well have it on his genitals and not no. Over 89% of people w herpes genitally are said to not know they have it because they are asymptomatic. The only way you'll know, is if you both get blood tests. Of you just broke out, you need to wait at least a month to two, for antibodies to show in your blood. My blood test came back negative from my week of my primary breakout, but 3 months later came back positive. Good luck and keep me updated

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      Sorry for typos.. Doing this from phone
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      Thanks so much for your help. My ex was a sociopath so there is no contact whatsoever with him. So j really have no way of finding out.

      Do you mean if you have hsv 2 you are very unlikely to catch hsv 1?

      Like I said my first genital outbreak was jn 2013 so it's took over a year for my 2nd outbreak to happen. But why am I getting cold sores now? And at the same time as down below?? Is this more likely if I have hsv 1 on mouth AND genitals and it's just coming out on 2 places??

      Sorry for all the questions!! I really do appreciate your advice. Thank you so much xx

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      My first outbreak down below was pretty bad with all the usual flu symptoms etc...my 2nd outbreak over Xmas was pretty mild..I only had two blisters.

      Does this make any difference to knowing what type i have? As I believe type 2 always comes out more frequently...(more obs) and more painful??

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