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New Relationship.. How do I tell him before sex?

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Confused2008
Confused2008

I have been talking to this man for about 4 months and we made it official after last month.. He knows everything about me and me him, he told me he loves me a few days ago.. I feel the same, we are very much in love.. But I need to tell him before we have sex, which I feel will be soon.. I think he will be mad I kept it from him, but I never expected it to go this far.. And I wouldnt just share this information with just anyone either. I'm sure it could definitely be a deal breaker, given everything.. I'm pretty nervous. Any advice?

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  • Confused2008
    Confused2008

    Posted

    Of course that I have herpes is what I mean.. How do I tel him I have it.
  • jasmine84852
    jasmine84852 Confused2008

    Posted

    Tell him because if you really love him you wouldn't want him to suffer from outbreaks they really are severe

    • Confused2008
      Confused2008 jasmine84852

      Posted

      Oh I am telling him, there is no question about that. I hardly ever have outbreaks but I am still going to tell him, I just dont know how to break it to him...
  • mikarose
    mikarose Confused2008

    Posted

    Hi, did you have any luck telling him? I don't have much advice but there's another site I think it's called herpes opportunity or something like that - it had helpful guides smile

    I have been through telling someone and it worked out fine. Just be honest and don't make it sound like worse than it is. Go on suppressive tablets if you aren't already and ensure him it's not the end of the world for you, merely something that needs disclosing.

    • Confused2008
      Confused2008 mikarose

      Posted

      Thank you smile I told him.. Not sure if we will stay together but I am surely praying we do.

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