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Iam a professional.. as im sure some of you are. Married happily with a spouse in law enforcement. Iam in a position to encourage a healthy lifestyle. Im also a wife of 9 years and a mother for 3 years in my.late 20's . Im absolutely torn and broken. I have drank at times into complete oblivion, i have instigated those around me to continue drinking as well, only in an effort to not be alone. I have spent SO much money to keep some people around me through drinks. ive embarassed myself, made a fool of myself. I have asked for help,.but have been disregarded. I write this in an effort for desperate support. For someone similar to help eachother in any way possible. This is my very post, i look forward to learning the positivity of others in a similar situation.

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  • pistal666
    pistal666 Guest

    Posted

    Hello wink,..The step that you have taken to speak out and ask for ideas, is arguably the hardest. And you have come to to right place for a diverse opinions and tools. What problems does drinking bring about? Do you drink on occasion, erratically or Daily? Are you in the UK, what help have you approached so far that have disregarded you?. Hope to chat soon. Thanks rn11987 smile
  • RHGB
    RHGB Guest

    Posted

    Same question as Pistal, are you UK, or more likely US, judging on your terminology.
  • PaulJTurner1964
    PaulJTurner1964 Guest

    Posted

    Hello rn. Everybody feels like that after years of brainwashing by society that this illness is some sort of character flaw. The first thing you need to know is that this is a physical illness which you did NOT cause. There is a medical treatment with a very high success rate which is largely being ignored in favour of non-science-based traditional treatments which have a far lower success rate.

    Have a look at:

    https://patient.info/forums/discuss/useful-resources-487627

    and read about The Sinclair Method. You will also find lots of information on The Sinclair Method by Googling it.

    You will also get plenty of support from the people here so stick around smile

  • sharon7979
    sharon7979 Guest

    Posted

    I would ask you how much and how often your drinking? Is also your husband aware of how things are with you. Is there anything that triggers you or are you more so in a habit of drinking daily?

    There are many things you could consider to change things but to be fair just need a little more info. You have done well to come on the forum, lots of genuine people who can offer brilliant support xxx Take care and keep in touch x

    • karen36196
      karen36196 sharon7979

      Posted

      Unfortunately my marriage broke up I was drinking 3 bottles of wine a day from waking up I was an a true mess I drink non alcoholic stuff now I had one glass of wine last year in Blackpool but the guilt was horrible and ithought I was going today

    • sharon7979
      sharon7979 karen36196

      Posted

      Hope your ok Karen, its not easy. We all know that. Wine used to taste so good at times for me and now it just brings back guilt and bad memories. Wine is also one of those drinks i believe that somehow we justify in our heads as it doesnt seem so bad as drinking spirits. Good that you only have the non alcoholic type now so you should give yourself a break and feel proud that you have come so far. We all have had blips, doubt there is one person here that hasnt. My relationship broke down too with many consequesnces, but we are talking and i hope with each other again. But as many here on this knows i am still devastated.

      From the sounds of it you have done so well and who knows what lies around the corner hun. The main thing is that you have focused on yourself and getting better xxxx Keep in touch x

  • kelly71703
    kelly71703 Guest

    Posted

    Hi m. Your still in a relatively good position so get as much help and support as you can.

    Have you been to your Dr?

    Maybe you could seek some form of intervention regarding triggers ect.

    Can you talk with family or friends?

    Take care

  • gwen45436
    gwen45436 Guest

    Posted

    Hello and welcome - "torn and broken" such sad words from one so young - and this can be sorted.  How alcohol gets its grizzly grip is unbearable - why it does gets me angy - my OH drank 18 pints a night  on his 3 nights out for years n years  was known as one of the boys!!!! - Now he is happy with a glass of beer b4 dinner until weekend with the lads - but no more 18 pints.  Now me, well another story, I have a problem.  I have found massive help on here from trusted peeps.  I also resonate with healthy lifestyle - I think that is why I have got to my age and have survived and look and feel ok???!!!

    There are some special peeps on here that can help u - I won't name and shame - but believe me you can trust them - I do - implicitly.

    Stay on this forum - u will win this - promise smile xx

  • sharon7979
    sharon7979 Guest

    Posted

    Again i would agree with Kelly and have a chat with your doctor, things can move on xx
  • deirdre._03652
    deirdre._03652 Guest

    Posted

    Hi rn...i know that at the moment you feel that things will never, ever change..but please. As keep your spirits up, you can get better....

    I had a VERY, VERY SEVERE ALCOHOL PROBLEM FOR 12 yrs...i never imagined being able to live without alcohol every single minute, of every single hour, of every single day that I was awake...

    My problem was so bad...i was forcibly sectioned four times !!!! But it saved my life...

    Have you asked your DR FOR ADVICE ?? also most towns and cities have a *** drop in centre..*** for both alcohol and drug abuse,,,they ate totally objective....and on your side !!! So you don't need to worry...

    You can do it, with support, very, very many people do...

    They can prescribe a drug that helps to cut the craving, and help greatly with any anxiety problems, that you may have ...or not,,,but to you WILL BECOME calmer, and rational about the problem you wish to be rid of...

    I will post again ..,tomorrow..i wish you a good rest...positivity, and real hope for your future....sleep tight...

    Many sincere regards, and total understanding for you...hugs...hugs...hugs...HUGE..HUGE...HUGS FOR YOU...XXXXX KEEP YOUR CHIN UP...XXXXX

    • vickylou
      vickylou deirdre._03652

      Posted

      If only that were true! I've never been to an ARC which was objective and on my side. As for them prescribing meds and helping with anxiety!, maybe I've just been unlucky. They just made me more anxious and very frustrated.

    • RHGB
      RHGB vickylou

      Posted

      I have mentioned/commented on this before and Paul has explained.

      Deidre's help was many years ago, at least over a decade ago, probably two decades ago. Back when there was real support, when Paul worked for the NHS. Sadly the system changed, part of the reason Paul moved on.

      The system then and the system now (or over the last few years) are completely different.

    • vickylou
      vickylou RHGB

      Posted

      That's exactly the point I was trying to make. Deidre's comments are based, as you say, on her experience years ago.

      That information IMO gives false hope to someone wanting help now.  The situation now is totally different, so her comments, without being rude, are no longer valid. Rather than hugs and kisses, correct information would be more helpful, sorry but I am a cynic.

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