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bellal2
bellal2

Hi

Today i was diagnosed with genital herpes.. when the doctor told me the results were positive i couldnt help but sob.. and now i feel so disgusting i cant even bare to look at myself in the mirror..

Last week i had knicked myself shaving and thought nothing of it because its an often occurance, that night i had protected intercourse with an old flame who i hadnt seen in almost 13 years.. everything was fine until two days later the left side of my vagina became very itchy and swollen.. naturally i thought i had razor burn or an ingrown hair.. but soon enough 4 small blisters popped up around the area... i battled with the pain for a whole week until i decided it was time to go to the doctors (this was 3 days ago) ... the doctor wasnt so sure so he took a swab .. but put me on anti viral anyway.. and i must admit.. taking this has helped the outbreak go down significantly ( the nerve pain, the blisters etc ) but for 3 days i was researching constantly trying to convince myself it may have been follucitis or even a bacterial infection... but today i got the news and i am absolutely devastated... i am sad to think that any future relationship may be ruined as soon as i have to explain i have genital herpes.... all ive wanted in life was to settle down and fall in love and i feel like in this short week my dreams have been shattered...

Will i ever come to terms with this???

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  • thebear123
    thebear123 bellal2

    Posted

    I am going through a similar problem at this very moment. My result will come in tomorrow morning and I just feel like my entire life is going to change for the worst.

    Did the test tell you which kind of genital herpes you contract? HSV-1 or 2?

    • bellal2
      bellal2 thebear123

      Posted

      Hi thebear123

      She showed me the lab report it it said HSV-1 not detected.. HSV-2 dectected..

      I have to say my heart sank... i suffer from panic attacks as well.. so this has certainly brought the anxiety on : (

    • thebear123
      thebear123 bellal2

      Posted

      I'm so sorry. My fear is that a result like this will be given to me tomorrow. 

      Just make sure to take the medication religiously, and plan a way to lead a healthy lifestyle. This is what I have heard prevents future outbreaks. 

    • bellal2
      bellal2 thebear123

      Posted

      Yes starting tomorrow im changing my life completely... i just hope and pray that i dont get regular outbreaks
  • TLAN
    TLAN bellal2

    Posted

    I understand how you are feeling as I was diagnosed in January, I have type1 and I too am devastated. As the time passes I feel worse as I can't deal with this.
    • bellal2
      bellal2 TLAN

      Posted

      Its a feeling i cant even describe.. i feel worthless as hell
  • Onestepatatime
    Onestepatatime bellal2

    Posted

    My heart goes out to you, honestly. I too have genital herpes (HSV-1), I got it from my fiance who was my first sexual partner. We're still getting married to each other but I too still feel "disgusting". Although I have accepted this and moved on from it, I still carry some kind of resentment to him for giving me this. I know that he didn't do it intentionally but I put up with the agonising pain for a whole week, I have to wear this stigma whilst he's free from the pain of it all... try and stay positive regarding this I know it's easier said than done but it will turn out okay in the end. 
    • bellal2
      bellal2 Onestepatatime

      Posted

      I hope so..but then i think back and think have i had this for awhike and not known,?

    • Onestepatatime
      Onestepatatime bellal2

      Posted

      That's certainly possible. I've been with my fiance for two years and we've been sexually active since, in fact we haven't even had penetrative sex yet (we wanted to save that part to our marriage) and I've only just had my first breakout a week ago. So I'm assuming it may have lied dormant in my body for a while and something may have triggered it. It may have been the same for you too.. 

      Feel free to message me if you'd like someone to talk to

    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus bellal2

      Posted

      It is probably from your old flame, given the timing. Around 85%+ of first outbreaks occur soon after infection (which means very few people have it dormant for ages then suddenly have a first outbreak years later).
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus Onestepatatime

      Posted

      Sex, oral sex or kissing with herpes is like Russian roulette. You don't always catch it. You only get it when the person is shedding and you have adequate contact with the virus. As a result, it's possible to be with someone who has it and not get it till months or years later, or to get it the very first time.
  • Lollypop01
    Lollypop01 bellal2

    Posted

    I am going through the same....I was utterly devestated when I found out 3 weeks ago, I have been suffering for 5 weeks with a primary outbreak and new one....however if you read on here a other sources knowledge is power....you are more stuff infectious when u have symptoms or shedding( useually when I'll/rundown) and regular daily medication can lower the chances of shedding and outbreaks....you are infectious for the first 6 months I think even without symptoms......

    But I read that the chances of you passing on to a partner when you have gone past the incubation period, and have no symptoms or illness etc are around 4%??

    Like I said I'm also new to this but there is someone on here called feliscactus who is really clued up on herpes so hopefully they can offer you good advice?

    Good luck and hope you feel a little more optimistic soon xx

    • bellal2
      bellal2 Lollypop01

      Posted

      Thank you so much, im researching like mad.. i just want to lock myself away
  • Trucker1
    Trucker1 bellal2

    Posted

    All I can say is I'm the same way...I feel dirty and wanna just die...I don't wanna live this way! I'm on valtrex and I'm still getting outbreaks...I've given up hope now...they say stay positive but yeah right...good luck and keep in touch
    • bellal2
      bellal2 Trucker1

      Posted

      Im in valtrex too and i have to say it has helped immensly.. how many milligrams are u taking a day??
    • Trucker1
      Trucker1 bellal2

      Posted

      500mg he's gonna up it to 1000mg...I'm also taking lysine, and zinc...I've been studying this like crazy! I quit all coffe, sugar, and eating fruits and raw veggies...mixing apple cider vinegar in water and drinking that...Google said it works...umm nope!
    • bellal2
      bellal2 Trucker1

      Posted

      Im on 1000mg and i have been drinking a whole lot of water as well.. i never had pain whilst urinating so thats a plus.. probably because the blisters are external... you will get through
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