No motivation, no drive to keep up to my apartment. I stay in bed as much as possible.
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I have chronic depression dating back to 2009. I've been on SEVERAL meds with no luck. I'm med resistant. I refuse ECT. I have no motivation to do anything. I use to be very OCD and kept my apartment in order. I cannot keep any order now and it's cluttered, messy and every space is filled with something. I've read up about how to start small tasks to overcome low motivation etc and that does not work for me. I spend as much time in my bed in my bedroom. And spend all my time in my bedroom. I live alone and have a 2 bedroom apartment and hardly spend anytime out in other areas of my apartment. I have lost friends as I don't want to leave my apartment. I do not want to go out. I make it to my appointments then I'm straight home. I don't know how to get out of this deep rut. I use to be very social and had my apartment In order. I'm hoarding now and have hardly any space for anything cause I have so much stuff. I'm totally overwhelmed on where to even start cause it's so much that I'm crazy overwhelmed. I have no desire to clean anymore and I use to like puttering and cleaning but I have absolutely no energy to even begin to want to clean. Any suggestions on how to bring the old person I use to be back. I miss that old person who had unlimited energy and able to keep things in order etc. I also use to cook and now have no desire to cook nice meals for myself or anything. Any suggestions would be appreciated. I am from Ontario, Canada.
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Laserbeam Hylandgal
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brandon12590 Hylandgal
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I don't have any answers for you because I'm in the same situation. My depression and anxiety has recently paralyzed me. If you ever need anyone to talk to about the way you feel you can message me though.
ann55375 brandon12590
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mps60567 Hylandgal
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I read your post and I would like to tell you that you can definitely become the old enthusiastic person. Start with a new day, list down the things that you used to do which used to makes you pleasant. Start slowly with a small task,do things slow
apoorva54584 Hylandgal
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Hey,
I know how difficult it can become to bounce back to one's usual self specially when someone is going through what you are right now. One often thinks of the time of how one was before and the realization that one has far moved beyond that state , doesn't really help. It's really not easy to get o er depression. It's really cyclic and biological. Having said that , that doesn't really mean that we don't possess the power to overcome it. No amount of medication and therapy can ever help us, unless we are willing to help ourselves first.
Depression is a prolonged state where people find it difficult to experience happy emotions. Hopelessness, anxiety etc. accompany. A link that i found on the online counseling site that may prove to be very useful in tackling depression. The first step that must be taken is to consult a psychiatrist and take proper medications. Further steps that may be taken are mentioned in the following link:
Needless to say, its better seek some professional help. they will definitely help you get a deeper insight into your problem.There are some things that you may do on your own to help yourself. Motivate yourself to work. Remind of the time when you were your chirpy self and try hard to get back to that level. Identify the causes that are causing you think in a particular way and thereby causing the depressive symptoms. Keep on following points from your side:
Engage yourself in something or the other.
Reach out. Talk to others. Speak to your friends, family members.
Eat healthy
Practice yoga and normal breathing exercises. It helps relieve all your tension and anxieties.
Take care .
Good Luck!
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brenda69464 Hylandgal
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May I suggest going to see an Ayurvedic practitioner.
I have lived with Major depressive disorder,anxiety disorder and PTSD for over 15 years. Your story sounds all too familiar. I was on several different medications and had had enough of western medicine. I found an East Indian Doctor who has worked with me for the last 10 months. He helped me wean off of prescriptions and introduced me to different herbs as well as the practices of yoga and meditation. I am proud to say that I no longer need prescription drugs. It has worked for me and I really thought I was a hopeless case! I too am in Ontario, Canada
It might be worth a try! Best of luck!
lattifa7777 brenda69464
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brenda69464 lattifa7777
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I have only been totally med free since April 30 2017.
I had been taking Effexor (37.5 mg).
I feel pretty darn good. I am clear headed (no brain fog) and can actually feel happiness, sadness and can get angry. When I was medicated I was always,what I call flat-lining . It is wonderful to FEEL. I also actually can't wait to get out of bed in the morning and get on with the day. That is very new to me and kind of child-like. I am beginning to understand just how long I was sick and how severe it was.
Certainly this method of treatment is working for me!
I have a saying, nothing worthwhile is easy.
Keep trying! Smile everyday!
Hylandgal brenda69464
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kevin01347 Hylandgal
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I am so sorry you are experiencing this. My husband suffers from longterm depression and anxiety for more than 20 years and I was recently diagnosed; I have a new appreciation and understanding how it feels to not want to move.
I've always been strong willed. The best advice I can give is to take it one day at a time. Don't focus on tomorrow, just today. At night before I go to bed, I made a "short" list of 4-6 things I will do tomorrow and leave it at my bedside. I promise myself that if I can get through those items, then if I feel like going back to bed, I will. I almost never go back to bed and if I do, I find myself reading, meditating or doing something productive. Maybe start with just one or two things on your list. That's all, nothing else. When you achieve them, reflect on the list as you lie in bed and give yourself credit for having gotten them done!!!
I like the idea someone else gave of getting some help around the house. What I've learned is that if you want to change your life, sometimes you have to do something drastic.
The way I see it, you are very self aware of the problem and what needs to change in your life, you are just struggling to find the energy and motivation because of the depression. Focus on the positive: you see the path out, you just need to find the strength to take the first step, regardless of how painful it is to do it.