No way out.
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Ive been depressed for about a year now im so sad and just want to end it all. Ive been with my partner for 15 years and stepson and daughter and grandson who i love so mch.ive got a good job and should be so happy but im not . I wake everyday shaking notwanting to go to work im on anti deptessants which my partner doesnt know about i dont want to eat im crying all the time then i dont want to mix with people i have to put on a brave face but my partner knows something is up. My dad tried to kill himself a few times and growing up i had to deal with this. I lossed my uncle auntie and cousin on the ferry disaster in march 87 then 15 years ago i split with my ex i awoke to find her 10 year daughter touching me sexually and using my hand on her i freaked but instead of telling her mam i never said anything i was scared it happened and that she would accuse me of touching her.that was 15 years ago. All these feelings have resurfaced and i blame and hate myself so much i just want out im a good person with a good heart .
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mari34228 John1111
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Did something occur a year ago that made you feel the way you do now? Perhaps it is some sort of delayed reaction to everything that has happened. Whatever it is, you really need to speak to someone. Just to be able to get out everything that is going round and round in your head could be beneficial for you. It won't take it all away, but just to 'release' your worries out into space (if you know what I mean) really does help to lesson the intensity of them. Has your doctor suggested counselling?
Also, do you have a strong enough relationship with your partner to tell her how you are feeling (and why)? Apart from the tragic family events does she know about the 'incident' 15 years ago? That must be a huge mental/emotional burden for you to carry around with you. And it's not fair on you to have to deal with that alone. She is probably worrying about you but has no way of knowing what to do to help, because she is essentially in the dark. Parnter's should be there to support one another. Perhaps you should give her the opportunity to do this.
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mari34228 John1111
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And so yes. You may look around you and think 'I should be happy'. But you are not. But IT IS understandable! You are depressed. Depression doesn't give a damn how good your life 'should' be.
I really do urge you to go back to your doctor. Have you explained how hard you are finding it to cope with your feelings? You obviously don't have to tell him/her the details of everything that has happened, but I think you should say that there are things in your past that you are having trouble moving on from and tell them that you are finding it very difficult to see a way forward. If they know just how troubled you are then they should be able to tailor their support better for you.
I really do think counselling could help you. Like I said before, it won't make it all go away, but it should help you to cope with it in a more manageable way. You don't have anything to feel guilty about John. Bad things have happened to you. That's not your fault.
Best wishes. xx
John1111 mari34228
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julian33896 John1111
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Wow it sounds like you have been through a lot. You said you are on antidepressants, which one are you on? And how long have you been taking it?
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hypercat John1111
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hypercat John1111
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Mari is so right - it doesn't matter how happy your life is depression doesn't care. This obviously come from your past. Have you ever had any counselling? This might help. Bev x