normal???

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had my first appointment with the pshychiatrist yesterday, i normally hold it together at home but as soon as i started talking to him i started to cry which was frustrating. he recomended i start to take sertraline. is it normal to just start to cry without warning after these appointments?

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  • Posted

    Aww it is awful hard to tell someone how your feeling I didn't even get to sit down in the doctors office an I bawled like a baby , but you have took a big step it will only get better good luck !!
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    Dear Alex 1986,

    I sympathize with you at this time. I can assure you that your condition will improve over time as you take your prescribed Sertraline dose. 

    It's been a month since I have been placed on it and I feel more stable now after going through the side-effects. 

    So don't worry. You will be fine. 

    I wish you all the best 

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    i don't know about that i've only ever been to see a psychiatrist a few times and i wasn't upset i was angry at the time but that was years ago, haven't been recently to see anyone, don't feel like i need to anymore, i know the reasons behind the first visit and now that sertraline is fully in my system, i'm feeling more like myself again so won't be needing anything else hopefully!! try not to beat yourself up over gettting upset, it's a natural reaction, you are going through a bad time at the moment and if that's what your body needs to do to let out a bit of frustration then so be it, take the sertraline, honestly a few weeks from now, you'll be glad that you did :-)

     

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      Hey gingemac,

      Just wanted to reply to your comment because it struck me that you said you weren't upset at the time, just angry. Did you know that anger is kind of like a 'lid' on top of other emotions? It's because although it's uncomfortable to feel angry, it's often easier than feeling sad, scared, ashamed etc. Try this experiement with yourself some time when you're feeling angry (and you have some privacy). Just sit somewhere, with no distractions, and allow yourself to feel that anger. But try to look at it as if from a distance. After a while, see if you can recognise any other feelings you are having. This is important, because these secondary feelings are closer to what's really bothering you than the anger is. I hope you see what I mean, it's really a hard thing to do, scary, but if you can sit with it/through it, you might learn something about what's making you feel that way.

      :-)

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      thanks for your reply fings, i will certainly give that a try next time i have an overload anger episode, i seem to be calming down. usually when i get that way it's kind of an out of control feeling and i can't seem to shift it, unless i totally blow my top and in some cases, totally over react, infact most cases, i blame that on my over sensitivity :-) but i will give it a go, thanks for the tip :-)

       

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      You're welcome. I know what you mean, it's awful feeling like that. I'm hypersensitive and am always questioning if people are really hurting me on purpose (or dont' care), or if it's just me being "too sensitive" so I can relate to the sensitivity thing.
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    Totally! Absolutely!

    It's really good that you cried, that's your body's way of getting rid of a build up of chemicals. Notice how you always feel a bit better after a big cry (and quite often exhausted)? Never be ashamed of crying, it's normal and healthy.

    It's really normal to cry (a lot!) when you first talk to someone who you know is there to support you. I know, it can also feel extremely scary to cry like that in front of a stranger. You probably felt very vulnerable. But honestly, it's a GOOD thing and it's OK and very normal. You probably starting crying without warning after the appointment because you've been holding on to all those feelings for so long, and they don't just go away if you push them down and ignore them. You were probably relieved that you'd spoken to someone, or just getting rid of pent-up emotions. Really, really normal and alright (even though it doesn't FEEL like it at the time. In fact it can feel really horrible). But feeling horrible some of the time is all part of getting better. The important thing is to actually let yourself feel horrible, because once you do that, and acknowledge that "Hey, yes, I feel really awful right now", that simple acknowledgement will begin to make the uncomfortable feelings fade. Honestly! I've been through it many times.

    Give yourself a big hug (and one from me)

    :-)

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      i agree too, i have started looking at my feelings alot more and not being so affraid when i feel rubbish, just try and accept it and know that it will pass eventually, i had that last night, felt rubbish, was mean to my boyfriend, after a few minutes, i realised that it was me that was feeling rubbish, not him, i appologised for being an arse wipe and i felt much better this morning after a good nights sleep. sometimes i can go from feeling great to feeling rubbish in the blink of an eye. at first i was scared of this and fretted every time i felt myself going under and it just made me 10 times worse, when now i actually step back and think,right ok, i not feeling as good, but is it really that bad, and somehow i don't know how, i manage to lift myself out of it, which is something i've always failed miserably at, i've always deemed myself uncureable, unhelpable, pathetic, stupid and just down right moody cow, but now i look at things and the way i feel in a different way, try and be a bit more light hearted about it instead of getting that "dreaded feeling" and thinking oh no, here we go again, my life is totally rubbish and spiral into complete negativity, it's very hard to get a handle on that, and it's so unbelieveable how coming on here helps so much, and telling people things like this, that you can't explain to anyone else who doesn't get it and doesn't understand the depression/anxiety thing. each and every person that i've spoken to on here has been 100% supportive and really helped me and other people on here through some very dark days :-) thanks to you all :-) 

       

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      it also really helps to keep your mind active as well during these times, i often go on the internet when i feel rubbish and look at stuff like my dream house, dream car or look at horses for sale !! don't ask my why these make me feel better but they do :-) !! keeping your mind active i have found really helps and is really important, when you're mind starts to focus on negative things, it just snowballls into something massive, and then you're past the point of no return, has anyone else experienced this kind of thing??? :-)

       

    • Posted

      Yea I experience that all the time at mo, sometimes I can think positive but normally the negative takes over
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      okay alex, next time you feel like that and you're trying to think but just can't, put you're favourite film on, listen to your favourite song, look for something on ebay or something you will enjoy doing and see if that makes any difference to you, just might be surprised at how much it helps you :-)

       

    • Posted

      I felt like I was just reading about myself! Everything you said; about suddenly feeling "rubbish", sometimes I don't know how I'm going to feel from 1 hour to the next, and it makes it so difficult to plan anything or commit to anything; That feeling of being somehow "broken" or "damaged goods" and catastrophising, happens to me often, and sometimes, like you, I manage to pull myself out of it and all of a sudden I can see things from another perspective and it's not so bad. It's so easy to become completely overwhelmed with negative feelings and like nothing, or nobody, can help. But it can change to good again so quickly.
  • Posted

    Normal?.......yes yes yes and yes! Its also a good thing I believe, let it all out, as a fella I always say to myself "only real men cry"!
    • Posted

      I'm a girl, but still hate crying infront of people 
    • Posted

      Agree with you 100% Luke! I think men that cry are extremely brave. It takes a lot of strength to let those feelings show.

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