Normal or not? Worrying for nothing?

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Hi all,

I'm just over 5 weeks post op for a&p repair using the mesh and perenium repair. I'm still not walking right most of the time without it pulling/ dragging and it's still really sore in/on my Perenium. I feel like I'm walking like an 80 year old with a back problem! I'm trying to rest as much as possible, not lift anything heavy and do everything advised for recovery.

Am I worrying about nothing?

It's really getting me down especially with a young family to look after. I never realised that I'd still be like this over 5 weeks after the op.

I'm really looking for advise from anyone else who's had the same op about how they felt at this stage? I know everyone's different and people heal differently etc but just reassurance really as I'm sure my husband is sick of me talking about it to him lol

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    Hi everyone, can I join in too?! I'm relieved to read this thread as it echoes exactly how I'm feeling. I'm 6 and a half weeks post op now, anterior and posterior repair plus perineum repair. I feel like I'm past the wound healing stage now but I feel like I'm back to where I was before the op, in the early days before I even got a ring pessary😫 Some days are better than others but for example like yesterday, as soon as I'd had a bm in the morning, I felt like my insides were falling out and I had the constant feeling like I need to wee (not a uti but the symptom I had pre-op). I feel like an old woman with a vice grip round my abdomen. It aches, drags and all feels so weak. The posterior repair feels strong but not the anterior. I saw my GP and told her my symptoms and she helpfully said 'maybe the anterior repair hasn't worked' sad she didn't examine me apart from taking a quick swab to check all infection has gone so don't know why she said this. It's the last thing I need to hear right now!! I'm so disheartened thinking what was this whole op for?? I'm frantically googling those big pants that hold you up (that cost loads!) and the like as I cannot bear the dragging feeling. I see the consultant in 3 weeks so have my sick note extended til then. I agree Resting that it's so hard with little ones and I think everyone (including me!) expected to be sorted and jumping around by now! I didn't see this forum til post op so was completely unprepared for the recovery. And I seem to be mentally preparing myself that it hasn't worked so that I'm not too devastated at the follow-up appt. Its tough mentally as well as physically isn't it? Here's to us all feeling great soon!
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      Mel I have sent you a private message 
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      Hi Mel,

      Yes, it's a constant concern of mine that the op hasn't worked sad I didn't look into anything really before the op as I just thought I'm young, fit, healthy... I'll breeze through it... Big mistake eh!

      If I was in your position id prob phone the hospital and try and get your post op appointment brought forward? In the first week, I got a uti and I phoned the ward I'd been on and they were lovely and advised me what I needed etc.

      I really feel for you as I too would be frantic. As it's not all the time that you feel like it's prolapsed again, could it just be still knitting together?

      Keep in touch and hope you get sorted xx

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      I keep hoping that it's all that it's knitting together, Resting. This afternoon I've had a much better time - and stood for an hour no problem! So that's bouys me up but if tomorrow is a bad day again I'll be so upset... Such an up and down time eh? Bresychan- I have spent a lot of these past 6 weeks crying.... And you're so right wishing we'd been better prepared to be able to let others know what to expect e.g. work - I had no idea it would be like this!
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    Hi,

     just saying hope you ladies are all okay and slowly getting there. I feel much better since yesterday and think maybe I'm turning a corner, 6 weeks post op tomorrow. Still no energy but no pains which is a start . I certainly wouldn't be up to work  for a while, not that I have any LOL except some helping out..

     Let's hope it has worked for all of us, it really doesn't bear thinking about otherwise.  Take care and to report back. I see the consultant next week so that will be interesting .

     

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      That's good news Alybee. Fingers crossed that it's all upwards from here. 😊
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      Hi alybee,

      Me too! No real pains at all today and I drove and walked the dog with the boys smile it really is all good. Aches a little now but I've had no problems all day.

      Really pleased for you... Like you say, let's hope we've turned the corner xx

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    That's brilliant. I was just the same, started aching a bit this evening so sitting quietly now, do hope this goes  on. Let's see how we are in a few days. Thanks for the update.

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