not making it to the toilet and night time accidents

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hi, i started wetting myself around 2 weeks ago and i am worried about going to the doctors about it, im a 26yr old male.

sometimes i can feel when i need to go but i cant make it to the toilet

other times i have a second warning before im wet, its very distressing but i do have a very supporting girlfriend which helps a lot.

i have decided to use incontinence products (pull up type for the day and adult nappies for the night) until i can pluck up enough courage to see my gp, both my sisters know but not my parents......can anyone reassure me about what to expect if and when i do go to the doctors, it would be good to have a heads up about the type of tests and things


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    Hi Andrew. I'm having exactly the same problem. My doctor still hasn't carried out an examination. The doctor will send you for blood tests to check for problems with your prostate and kidneys. You will also be sent for an MRI scan to check the function of your bladder. Depending on the outcome of these tests the doctor might prescribe you with medicine for an overactive bladder. The best thing you can do is what I've done, which is to contact an incontinence clinic through the NHS website. I have that my GP is useless. What we want is clear answers not medication. I'm only 39 and having to wear protection is mortifying. It seems there's no quick fix. The incontinence will be able to put you in contact with a urologist. I've had my problem for a few months and I've found you're better off making your own plans as your GP's attitude is "here's some pills, wear a pad and good luck!" I'm still waiting for my appointment with the incontinence nurse. I'll let you know what they say. You're probably suffering from urge incontinence. Chin up and all the best.
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    Hi Andrew....i know the feeling only too well. I was the same. I used to joke about having a small bladder but gradually my symptoms increased until it became obvious to me that something wasn't right. It wasn't "just a small bladder". I was begining to leak as well. That first trip to the doctors was awful. Its not something anyone talks about let alone someone of your age (thankfully i was a few years older). All i would say it take a deep breath and bite the bullet and go to your doctor asap. It's not as bad as you think. It's either that or let your symptoms get worse which is a horrible thought. I don't know about anyone else, but i was put on tablets (Vesicare) to stop me needing to go as often. They worked a bit but i still had problems. After that i tried a couple if more types of tablets but all they really did was dry my mouth up. After that i was refered to the hospital.

    As you have a lovely girlfriend take her along with you to see the doctor and get the ball rolling on your treatment and diagnosis. The sooner the better.

    Good're not alone x

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      Meant to say that after a barrage of tests at the hospital and an over active bladder diagnosis (i could've told em that without all the tests!! Lol ) i'm 3 weeks away from having botox injections in my bladder....dreading it but can't wait. Anything's better than the indignity of leaks and pads. I want to go out without having to suss out where the loos are or carry around spare pads! To be able to drink in the evening without knowing i'll be up at least 5 times during the night. I want to sleep n not be irritable. I want to cuddle my husband n not worry about the pads. X

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    Thank you both for the replies, i should have added im on medication for depression and anxiety and was wondering if me starting a degree could have triggered this with extra stress and anxiety...i know bedwetting can be caused by increased stress and anxiety
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      Hi Andrew...i really don't know the answer to your question!

      I have a very stressful job that i've been doing for over 20 years now (i'm a teaching assistant for children with severe learning difficulties). All i know is  that i've needed to go to the loo often through out that whole period, but in the last 2 years the problem has increased dramatically to the point that i've had to seek medical intervention. Without the thought of the botox working i would go mad!! I had a really low day a couple if days ago where as i was speaking to my sister on the phone i cried. It has just worn me down. I'm ok again now.

      Get help x

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