OCD/ Anxiety over potential that children may die

Rebecca

It sounds like you are well on the way to Munhausens  by Proxy where you are dwelling over your childs health. My concern would be that you begin to try and pass down your Anxiety to your child and that may open up to wanting extensive tests on your child by visiting hospitals A and E.

I would strongly advise you discuss this with your GP and explain your fears, you need help and support to stop this possible harmful situation

SEE YOUR GP

BOB

Hi Rebecca I really feel for you. I to am going through this more myself I worry of dying and convince myself that I'm dying and worry about leaving the children. When my children get ill I do the same but I really try to play it down like she will say I am tired and have a head ache so I say you will be fine just have a sleep but really I'm crying inside and googling brain tumour symptoms. My daughter has picked up on it who us 8 my partner is also sick of hearing about it as it's so depressing. We recently went out and had to come home because my nerves were so bad he shouted why are you like this all the time. I lost my temper and shouted "because I am constantly felling like something bad is about to happen" in front of the children. Two days later my daughter had a stage of not sleeping in the night repeating what I said something bad is about to happen, she doesn't want to leave me being sick with worry. I spoke to my doctor today she said no matter how hard you try to hide it, children will always pick up on it. She said I have to do this for my children now so they don't end up the same. Please remember this your child is not the sick one in this you are. You need to get help do you take anti depressants ? If so I strongly recommend. You have to remember these thoughts you are having is only a thought I no it's easier said than done but you need to shut them of rather than letting them spiral out of control it is not fair on your child she will pick up on this and think there is something wrong if you keep sending her for tests. I think deep down you no there is nothing wrong but you keep needing the reassurance. A doctor gave me a book to read called the chimp paradox I think you should read this it's about the chimp inside your head that is telling you all the things you don't want to hear and how to turn it of. Put everything in to perspective and the possibility of this happening is low. Children are poorly all the time give her a cuddle and tell your self everything will be ok. You have to retrain your brain. Stay strong it's hard I no. Hope this has helped and give you a little bit of comfort xx

a reply from single perant father??my son died at 6months old i woke and found him dead but earlier imn night he was crying so i put his dummy in and went back to sleep???the terror i felt on two of my other kids was pure hell a sneeze a cough not crying not eating all brought that terror to the open . we are now 32years on its still with me   prob never go away but myself haveing three near death problems have learnt life is a strange old thing  and my advice  feel sad feel scared feel insecure but most off all do not fear you are a prob you just need to find that safe haven inside were the worry wont rule youer life and thoughts their are peaple and places you can go and chat to ease worrys

I think as parents we all worry about our children, their health and their futures.  I don't think that you will be on your own with your issues but it definitely seems as though it is now becoming a problem and that your children are being affected by this.  You need to keep on with treatment to help with coping strategies.  I would recommend that you go back to see your GP and tell them your fears.  I would also sit your child down and explain that mummy has anxiety and that sometimes when she thinks you are sad you are just not feeling very well.  This hopefully will keep her fears at bay a little more.  For your own sake and your children's you must carry on with treatment and get this under control.