on and off depression
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hi
ok, here goes
first some basic info
- mid twenty
- male
- have a job
- single
i have been on and off depression my entire life (genetic: my parents take sleeping pills and anti depressants), i don't take any.
Lately i've been having an increasing baldness, which is yet again causing me a depression. Whenever I go out with friends or go to the gym, I look in the mirror and my self loathing increases. I just wanna go home and do nothing anymore.
On top of all, I really don't feel like trying to accomplish anything anymore. Just go to my job, watch tv shows and sleep. That's just what I call 'my life'.
I know it seems a little selfish to just say because i am balding or smth that my life sucks and that I will never find a gf, but that's just how my mind works. I feel like I have stranded in life. I have already been to a psychologist once but that wasn't really helpfull, she just told me things I already knew.
How do you get over these things?
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angela10215 sfha
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Seriously,give yourself a break. There is nothing wrong with male patterned baldness and if girls dont accept you for who you are then its them who need help.
Love yourself more.
sfha angela10215
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That is what my mind says, unfortunately the heart doesn't always follow the mind.
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ali12345 sfha
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I see a lot of people focussing on the baldness part, that's not it.
More general question could be:
how do you cope with the fact that when getting older you start to notice that a lot of things do not go as expected and you get (increasingly) disappointed about several things?
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Digsby sfha
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Don't be hard on your "inner voice" - it's something you have to live with for the rest of your life. However, it is just one opinion and it isn't always correct. Your inner voice can be your toughest critic ;-)
It's OK to have dreams and life-goals. But if my depression has taught me one thing it is to lower my expectations on my self (and other people). I just read something today that really hit home: "Love doesn't hurt; it's expectations that hurt." I've found that to be true in my life. I'm trying to use some self-love techniques that my therapist has taught me (whatever is going through your mind right now, that's not what self-love, in a therapeutic sense, is about!) Just cut yourself some slack buddy and don't be so tough on yourself. Find what makes you tick and go for that and you will rediscover your mojo. You won't feel like this forever. Like you my whole family (divorced parents + big brother) is in therapy or on ADs but I don't like the idea that I am predisposed by my genes to go that same route. I'd like to think that I have some say in the matter, but if I need some medication or therapy to get me back on track (and I have), then that's OK.
I wish you luck my friend. You are not alone so any time you need to voice your frustration on this forum, you will find a friendly response.
Let us know how you get on.
Digsby
sfha Digsby
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It's the smallest things that can sometimes cause a low mood if you are prone to depression.
I have the same attitude towards AD, but sometimes the struggle is really tiring, but I hope it's worth the fight in the end.
Digsby sfha
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Energy levels can really fluctuate in this daily wrestle with depression. Some days are better than others. A bad day does NOT mean you are back at square 1. there's no such thing as square 1 - you are on a journey and that is always forwards. You might pause to take stock of things, and give yourself some recovery time, but you are never going backwards. Take care my friend and get in contact if you need any encouragement. There are many of us on the same journey :-)
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