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One of those days...

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sueliz57
sueliz57

It's just been one of those days when I find myself apologising to people for being ill and not being able to do the things we'd planned....why don't they just get it??

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  • Emma2000
    Emma2000 sueliz57

    Posted

    Hi, that happens all the time to me, people not understanding what we are going through is pretty frustrating.
    • sueliz57
      sueliz57 Emma2000

      Posted

      Thanks Emma. I suppose it's chin up, tomorrow is another day.
  • bronwyn97278
    bronwyn97278 sueliz57

    Posted

    Hi sueliz;   yep me, too.......I don't understand how "it can go from not understanding, to then making you feel guilty because you could/can't do".......such and such.....it becomes a Vicious Cycle.......just can't win.....Bron
    • sueliz57
      sueliz57 bronwyn97278

      Posted

      Hi Bron, thanks for your reply. Think I'll try what jcnps suggests and not apologise for being ill next time. I wonder if we do, will it change people's attitude? Who knows?
  • jcnps
    jcnps sueliz57

    Posted

    Maybe you need to stop apologising for being ill??   I have - ok took me a while but it has certainly made life easier

    Doesn't stop me saying sorry for not being able to carry out plans sometimes but that is vastly different from apologiing for the state that I am.   

    I have to remind myself about this sometimes and remember that saying 'no' is ok and not a sign of weakness.

    If people don't understand that is their problem not mine...not an easy situation but better than me feeling guilty for being ill when that is beyond my control!

    • sueliz57
      sueliz57 jcnps

      Posted

      Thanks for your reply, good point well made, you're right to make the distinction between our illness and inability to carry out plans. Thanks forsharing.
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