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We have not actually had a diagnosis for my grandson yet, but his extreme behaviour has been getting progressively worse over the past three years, to a point now, where he is violent towards my daughter and his sister, and on occasion to me. He lashes out, then invites you to hit back, when we don't he just hits, or kicks, more. He swears and smashes and throws things. As a family they are being supported by a Surestart Support worker who I must say has been brilliant, CAHMS are now involved, but it took them 18 months to decide this, originally they said 'because he was not like it all the time, it was not a mental health issue'. My grandson can be the most loving and affectionate little boy one minute, then an absolute monster the next. We really are at the end of our tether. My daughter has been to the GP several times for help. At the last visit she requested a referral to a paediatrician, and was told this was CAHMS responsibility, then guess what? CAHMS (at a meeting with my daughter, support workers, schoolnurse, headmistress and myself) said it was the responsibility of the GP, so now we have letters flying backwards and forwards between GP and CAHMS, but this is all taking time, time that we don't feel we have. My grandson knows that his behaviour is out of control, but he doesan't know how to stop himself. He is staying with myself and his grandad at the moment, as his aggression towards his mum was escalating to such a degree that we felt it was better to remove him from the situation. He told me this morning that he thought he should go into care so that he wouldn't hurt anyone any more, this is heart breaking as we love him so much and just want him to have a happy, healthy childhood. If anyone has any helpful ideas of where to go next I would love to hear them. By the way, my grandson is really well behaved at school most of the time, the only issues he has I would say are normal for a child of his age, ie spats in the playground, nothing violent.
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