Over thinking is ruining me. Please help !
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Hi everyone, so I am 20 year old student and as the title says, I am a huge over thinker to the point that it's making me feel really low about myself. For example, today I assumed (this always happens ALWAYS) that two of my close friends were being distant from me and assumed they didn't or don't like me as much as they used to and the reason why I think this is because the minute someone acts different with me I assume they don't like me anymore so what I do is push them away, I show no interest or will stay quiet, be distant with them. I then instantly (only with close people) feel terrible for doing that but believe that they noticed and don't like me for it. I know this sounds like a little girl issue but over thinking has taken over me to the point where I don't want to socialize with anyone, I don't want to leave the house incase my mind tricks me and causes issues that aren't there. I'm really confident and out spoken and love interacting with people but I can't help and always assume the worst. I literally create scenarios in my head of issues that may occur to me. I still believe people are waiting to realise what kind of person I am and not like me anymore. Right now I feel so drained and upset, I asked my self whats the cause behind me crying now and feeling this way and it's my issue with over thinking everything. I can't continue living like this, is this normal? why am I like this ?
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bruce47310 sam21794
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Exercise
Volunteering
Plenty of rest
Healthy food
All of these can help
jay78574 sam21794
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jay78574
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sujeet8656 sam21794
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you are talking about helth realetd problem so freind my suggesoin not depressoin to any problom more thinking
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Digsby sam21794
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Hi Sam,
It's a big cliché but our thoughts really can be our worst enemy. The older I get the more I realise that you really can't second-guess what's going on in someone else's mind....half the time they probably don't know their own thoughts & motivation. Group therapy in the practice of mindfulness helped me a lot to calm my mind & bring my thoughts under a bit more control. Please look it up on the Internet...it could help you. It's not about suppressing or denying negative thoughts. In fact to label thoughts as "negative" or "positive" is counterproductive. It's about acceptance....going with the flow....to reduce the suffering from these thoughts. It also helped me to give other people the benefit of the doubt more & not think the worst of them....they're dealing with their own s##t after all! If you are struggling to battle this on your own then you might benefit from some counselling. Take care & let us know how things progress for you.