Pain at waistline

Looking for ideas here, its been around 18 months since I hurt myself on the job site (construction, and unsure it was even related)

Lifting floor joists with others and typical discomfort but nothing crazy, that night I had pain on my waist line above both my legs. Went to DR. where I met with NP. NP states I had a hernia on both sides, one side was worse than the other, neither bulging but still there. They sent me to a hernia specialist/surgeon. Exam ended with him leaving me in more pain from pushing and such but states no hernia, but pulled muscles on both sides, sent me home with Vicodin...

Pain persists 6 weeks later, got in contact with specialist again, they did an ultrasound on both sides, both came back normal, no hernia, no pulled/strained muscles, nothing. 6 months goes by the left side is 100% better, no issues. Right side flairs up every other week it seems. Back in touch with specialist, another ultrasound, nothing, states I likely have a pulled muscle, and that it takes MONTHS for them to go away, asks if I want more pain meds, no... States my lifting limit is 8lbs (gallon of milk) PFFT, I have a newborn and a 3 year old at home, there is no way... But I try my best over a month or so. Pain still there, lifting nothing, couch potato...

Said "F" it, went about my life. A tad under a year after, at my routine with my reg DR. he asks about my mood, depression, pain. Explain I'm freaking depressed, I am in pain almost every day and I just deal with it, eat ibuprofen like candy because I don't want to eat hard stuff every day. I have to pick my kids up, it's my job. I have since stopped construction and moved to office side full-time so no heavy lifting aside from a small child and a medium sized 3 year old.

He orders a CT of my area that I'm having pain on, I feel like my mood went positive, maybe he actually cares and won't send me away like the last dude did twice...

CT comes back norm, no issues... That was like 3 weeks ago, got a call from DR today they want to send me to another GI person or w/e...

Feel like this won't ever end, and my insurance really just LOVES me right now. Awaiting referral I suppose to this person, which will likely be another week or two, whats a few weeks when its been almost 18ish or so months.

Symptoms:

Hurts when I use bathroom. (yeah sometimes I bear down, I try not to, so then I sit there for 20-30, can't always do that)

Hurts when I mow the lawn.

Hurts when I lift my kids.

Hurts when I sleep, so I get sh&&y sleep.

Now tired all the time due to no sleep.

Now mood is crap, I power through it.

They gave me sleep study, diagnosed now with apnea, gave me mask, need to lay on back, can't lay on back due to pain, so I don't use mask, F me right?

Hurts when I drive more than 10 minutes, and I've tried lumbar, different vehicles, etc.

Helps when I walk, but I can't just walk all day, so around once an hour or so I get up and walk around, it helps, but then 10-15 of sitting back down it hurts.

I might try a stand-up desk, but seriously, my desk is so small now...I can't keep being depressed like this, and yes walking helps, but standing all day isn't fantastic, I get other pains, or the pain does eventually come back if I stand and don't move.

Hurts when I sit in office chair, tried a bunch of chairs, have Herman Miller now, was not cheap, but worth it, still hurts...

I find no comfort/joy in doing anything anymore, the only enjoyment I get is playing with my kids, which is hard to do sitting on the floor, we do a lot of swing-set play because I only have to push them, but I am freaking depressed so I eat, which I have gained weight. Insurance won't pay for me to see a professional to discuss my depression/eating, but WILL pay for me to get weight loss surgery, which I feel would help my weight, but not help my initial pain so I will be right back to where I was mere months after the surgery.

Someone had mentioned "nervous stomach" I looked it up, hate to just look at symptoms online and then be like "Yeah I have 8/10 of those, I have it" mindset, IBS fits somewhat, but nothing explains the crappy pain I have that ultimately radiates to my right testicle some days, or causes my waist to feel like I'm getting a shot with no local (not that intense, but I don't really know how to explain it.)

An odd symptom which every med professional found odd, I have no idea when I have to pee anymore, its the same pain there all the time, so I just train myself to go restroom every 1-2 hours, or when I'm focused and the pain gets really bad I know I haven't relieved myself. So I guess I know when I have to pee when my regular pain gets insane, but it's not a "Oh I have to pee" feeling, its a craptastic pain train.

Hah pain train.

Any ideas?

I've fasted, it helps, but ultimately when I try to do anything like house work or yard work, or any type of "help my wife out" work I get pain for the next week or two off and on, so it's just a great cycle.

Please don't tell me I have a pulled muscle or something, I've tried the sit and do nothing approach, also tried the sit in an office chair approach. I really just want to get back out there and start building and lifting again, pain won't get any worse, so why not... ugh

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