Pain during sex

Hi Miranda.  Don't give up. Don't leave him.  Just be brave and tell him it hurts, take things slowly and gently.  There are sexual positions that minimize full-insertion and are supposedly easier on our inside bits, too.  After my last Endo surgery, it took literally 6 months for sex to be less painful.  You're healing up in there, all over, and it may take some time.

If sex is still painful after that time, talk to you doctor.  It may be that your pelvic floor muscles are super duper tight and protesting.  There are vaginal dilators you can buy to gently stretch your muscles to help ease the pain and discomfort of penetration.

Or if it's a deeper pain (like when he hits your cervix), you may want to look into cannabis suppositories.  I've recently heard that they may be incredibly helpful with painful sex.

I had the same issue after my laproscopy. There is some vitamins that help but it will interact with the hormonal therapy. If your boyfriend can't understand that it's painful for you or your interest is gone then you deserve better. There is no reason to put your health at risk for his pleasure. I have been married for 6 years and have only been able to have sex a handful of times this year and my husband understands and will take care of himself. I wish you luck hun.

Hi Miranda

Everybody's right about your insides are tender & rearranged a bit. There are, of course, many things you & your boyfriend can enjoy together that don't involve penetration of a lower orifice by anything bigger than a tongue, just temporarily. But if your boyfriend is understanding, take him up on that and give yourself another month or 2 to heal. Sex will seem like s brand new thing to discover after waiting.

Sometimes that side effect of the pill goes away with time. If not there's something called Dong Quai. You can buy it in health food stores, Whole Foods, Asian markeys, hippie pharmacies, and online. I'm 63 & some of my friends have been using it since they went through natural menopause in their 40s-50s. I haven't tried it but my friends swear by it.

Hi Everyone,

Hope this isn't TMI, but need some answers and the docs have failed me miserably. Background: 40 yrs old, heavy bad periods, diagnosed Dysplasia decade ago, Poly Cystic Ovary surgery 3 yrs ago, no babies.

Pain with sex for years now. Specifically, right at moment of orgasm feels like level 10 period cramps in a quick pulsing sorta way. It's hard to explain, the pain coincides exactly with what my pelvic muscles do when I orgasm. It totally kills the pleasure immediately and turns it into regret. Hurts bad for probably a good 10 minutes after that. It's made me not ever want to climax which is the whole point. My partner has a med issue too, so he is understanding, but as of late if it's not him it's me, the success rate is almost nil as of late for us both. It also happens when I orgasm alone. It happens every time. Taking Motrin before does nothing. 

I don't know why it's never been suggested to me before that I may have Endo, but I too saw the new commercial and I have every symptom mentioned. Ever Pap always hurts terribly and makes me want to crawl away backward off the table. And I def always verbalize it. I've asked multiple docs about these symptoms and they always say that they've never heard of the pain being specific to, and beginning with climax.

One more thing, read that Endo happens when menstration flow goes the wrong way, often I think my period begins long before the flow actually starts. Sometimes it takes some sort of penetration to get things moving. That can't be normal. Asking those who have been diagnosed with Endo...can you relate? Were you able to fix it and if so, how?