Pain from carrying toddler
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For a few months now I've had aching in my shoulder /joint going up towards neck , it's on the same side as I carry and hold my 3 years old daughter , she's carried and pickup up so much as she's clingy and she's got suspected autism so she doesn't understand as she's non verbal .
I think I've bruised or pulled a muscle as I've felt the area and can't feel anythink like lumps etc.. Just wondered if anyone else has this ???
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borderriever louise15240
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I understand with Autism it is a condition where people need to be firm and kind. The request that She now walks has to be addressed. Is She able to still use here pushchair, some can be quite large.
All your daughter can do is cry when you refuse to lift her, You need to let this happen. The tantrum may last for a time and hopefully she will get the point Autism paitents seem not to get upset or take tizz the same way as a normal person
Be firm, very firm and be kind, Most kids like a carry if they can get away with it.
Your well has run dry. Be firm she will eventually understand you are not playing the game anymore
BOB
louise15240 borderriever
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She does use her pushchair , it's when we're home she clings to me , she's at a specialist nursery and has started to cling to the staff there too she just loves being held , she doesn't understand at all as with autism comes learning difficulties too which she has, I've started to carry her on my left side now cause my right side is really tender and my neck hurts too
borderriever louise15240
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How is the Nursery getting around this problem. ?
I have only Had dealing with Adults with Autisim and I know we had to be really firm with them. Generally I found they fail to consider others although when told they have done wrong or are not considering others the best way was to put your foot down. They seem to accept the word No especially if you walk away. You could then try to divert Her attention and reward her in some way
You need to get some NSID medications for your arm and neck so some Nurophen may help there, that will reduce the swelling. You could also try NSID creams as well that will help with the soreness
The Nusery will need to be able to control this need ask for advice there as well. You are going to have to deal with this as it cannot go on as She becomes older She will get heavy and you will be in trouble.
Firmness is the only way here. Sorry
BOB
louise15240 borderriever
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The nursery has suggested dropping afew of her sessions as she's unable to cope with every morning as there's 12 kids in the class and my daughter doesn't like noise and many people around her, they do carry her and pick her up when she wants them to.
Doctors want her to have a brain scan to check that there's no abnormaties
borderriever louise15240
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Talk to your GP regards this I can understand the Nursery and the Sessions she attends,
Have the scan and see how you go.
Your GP may be able to arrange some assistance by referring you to a charity or NHS Department who deal with Autism.
We had an adult sufferer near where we were and they had formed a team of Social Workers that could help. Try and see if you could get some form of treatment plan arranged, your GP should be responsive.
Let me know how you get on, you can PM me if need be
Good Luck
BOB