Partner has depression don't know what to do
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I had suspected that my girlfriend was suffering from depression for quite a while but everytime I brought the subject up she changed the conversation.
However a week after christmas 2 days after her 30th birthday she told me she was unhappy and wanted to break up with me when only 2 days previous she was telling me how muched she loved me. 4 days on from this she conceded that she also thought she was suffering from deppression but still wanted to be on a break as she was not sure she wanted to be with me. she has started the counsiling process but I just dont know what to do I feel in limbo all the time and she is going out drinking with her firiends. I am trying to be patient and supportive but the whole situation is making me misserable and I cant always put a brave face on things. one minuite she talks as if we will be getting back together by talking about future plans then its the complete opposite. The counciling process has identified that her deppression may have been caused by the fact that when our 14month old daughter was born she was in critical condition in intensive care for a while, although she is ok now. I just do not know what to do or how to handle this as I love her very much but it feels like that she would rather talk or be with her friends or anyone else other than me and its killing me. She lives part time with me but escapes at any point she can.
if anyone can offer advise I would apreciate it greatly.
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michelle82267 rob31768
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Sorry to hear you're having a tough time. This must be very confusing for you but your girlfriend is probably feeling even more confused. I've had times where my thoughts are so all over the place that I'm not sure what is a real feeling and what is just anxiety talking and I suspect this is how your girlfriend is feeling about your relationship. I'm sure she still cares about you a huge amount, wondering whether you are right together is probably tearing her apart, making the anxiety worse - this cycle can then make it even more difficult to be around you. She may feel guilty and anxious whenever she is not being the perfect loving girlfriend around you and worry about things falling apart.
It's good she's seeing someone about this and hopefully will be able to think clearer soon. I can't guarantee that she will come running back to you but I think it's worth hanging in there and seeing this through to her being better. Let her know she still has your love and support, maybe small gestures to remind her of happier times would help but nothing too overwhelming. Hope things work out for you x
jackie82937 rob31768
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michelle82267 rob31768
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By coming on here you're already showing a lot of care and understanding, try reading up on how people with depression feel and advice on how to help people close to you are suffering. The only way you would truly understand is to go through it so ultimately be glad you don't quite get it, at least you're well
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It is very difficult to understand I have been on both sides of the fence and have had both anxiety and agoraphobia, I had to reach rock bottom before I sorted myself, others can't fix the problem we have to do it for ourselves and find the motivation to do it. Michelle is right you have to look after yourself first x
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