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we have been in a relationship for 2 years. He says he hasn't had sex with anyone else during that time and neither have I. 8 months ago I had my first ever cold sore on my lip. We didn't have sex or kiss until after it had healed. He now says it me who gave him herpes. Could this be true? Am I a carrier?
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FelizCastus scarlet_x
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Did he develop an outbreak? How was he tested? Need more details. But, yes, it's possible you're a carrier and gave it to him, but he could equally be a carrier himself and gave it to you, since you have never had a cold sore before. Hard to say without more details.
scarlet_x FelizCastus
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He had a swab taken on Tuesday after developing an outbreak about 10 days ago, results next week. The clinic told him there was no need for me to get checked out! I have absolutely no symptoms. But I feel sick at the thought that might have it and that I might have given it to him! Can I have a test without having any symptoms? Blood test? I can't get any info for UK only USA!
FelizCastus scarlet_x
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Depending on which type he has, both you and your partner can test for HSV1 and/or HSV2 IgG (*not* IgM) antibodies via private clinic (ask first) or one of those online labs. GUM clinics won't do it. If he tests asap and no later than 4 weeks from his outbreak, you should be able to determine if his is a new or existing infection. If new, he will still be negative for IgG but positive by swab test. If existing, he will be positive for both.
Darana scarlet_x
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Did you get a blood test? Does he know if he has HSV1 or HSV2?
A cold sore on your lip is herpes of the mouth. It's possible you could have given him herpes. But if you have HSV1 and he has HSV2, for example, then no you didn't give him herpes.
Many people can be carriers and have no clue.
Guest scarlet_x
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He could've easily been a carrier already! Many men do not get symptoms till very late into life, sometimes even years. Did he have any partners before the relationship started? Although it is possible, it doesn't seem likely if you made sure to keep the coldsore away from him as far as oral goes.