Passing urine without knowing

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Hi I’m 47 , had 4 children and I can’t control my bladder... it used to be when I coughed or sneezed, laughing too much was a real problem, but lately I’m passing urine without being aware... and having to change throughout the day... I’m worried I’m going to become completely incontinent..,, too embarrassed to talk to doc about it.. any advice would be welcomed x 

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    Please, talk to a doctor! They have seen far worse!

    Google 'Kegel exercices", they stregthten the right muscles.

    Sometimes it just goes away. Are you sure you have no infection? 

    Try taking cranberries and/or D mannose, they protect the urinary tract.

    Be moderate with beer and coffee. And be optimistic. You are young!

    If you are overweight, losing some weight may help too. Be well! Z

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    There are meds available to help the bladder. A uriinologist can help you . Don't put it off the sooner u see a doctor the easier this is to treat. Get you life back without the constant worry. 

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    Hi I’m going through the same, had tests done at hospital and now self catheterising at night, but that’s not working for me, well only been a couple of weeks trying this. I’ve tried lots of medication but nothing works for me. But please go to the doctor it’s a very common thing. 

    Good luck 

    Helena x

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    Hi Ruth!

    So sorry you're suffering from this distressing and stressful condition.

    I live in the UK and am a 64 year old man and over the past few years have had a camera up the backside and been diagnosed with ulcerative colitis; a camera down my 'privates' and been diagnosed with early stages of bladder cancer and now I go every six months for a checkup; it's the same procedure. The only reason I'm saying this is to emphasise that there really is no reason to be embarrassed; absolutely none whatsoever.  I joked with both the gastroenterologist and the urologist about their jobs and both laughed back and said 'I was born to look into peoples' bottoms', and the urologist likewise but in his case, about bladders. 

    It is their chosen profession and you must not let misplaced, but understandable, embarrassment prevent you from seeking advice and treatment from those who have made a voluntary decision to devote their lives to our welfare.

    Please see your doctor, lay your symptoms before him/her and let them know of your anxieties. They will understand and do their utmost to help you.

    Kindest regards and my very best wishes for a successful outcome.

    Have a Happy New Year!!

    Peter A   

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    Hi Ruth,  don’t be embarrassed- go to the doctor. This is a very common problem.  As others have  said it could be a urinary infection or something that can be helped with medication. 

    There are gadgets you  can try which help to exercise the pelvic floor such as Kegel 8. Personally they didn’t help me but some people swear by them.

    I was like you just walking around would make me soaked and I had no control over it. I ended up having a Burch Colposuspension and have never looked back.  It’s a major operation but well worth it!  Don’t be persuaded to have the cheaper TVT.  There are far too many horrible side effects associated with it although it works for some people. 

    Anyway go to the doctor and begin to get your life back. Good luck!

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    Hi Ruth

    You must have the courage to see the medics.  Its your health after all.  Im glad I did last year as I discovered I had Prostate Cancer.  Following treatment, I am now clear, but has left me totally urine incontinent after bladder surgery caused by the radiation.  I now have to wear nappies and rubber pants whenever I leave the house.

    Its not ideal, but I dont wet myself anymore, except for the nappy, as I can just let it go in them.  I get an endless supply via the NHS.

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      Colin47 how old are you, and what do you mean you just let go in them, do mean you just go to the bathroom in them, then if so you won't be confident in yourself because you will rely on your diapers to catch everything, I too wear diapers but I do pelvic floor exercises which do help if you do them right, I wear depends underwear

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    Hi Ruth.

    I call it leaking. Whenever I check, my undie pads are always wet.

    Urologist suspects damaged bladder muscle.

    Fought to get insurance to cover PTNS treatment because it's so non-invasive, exactly like accupuncture, but made very little difference. 

    Now I'm scheduled for trial InterStim device insertion. "Hope for the best, expect the worst'. I'm close to your age and the best I can do is share that you are NOT alone.

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