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I really need help I am just about to lose my own mind. I need to keep it as short but detailed as I can. I need advice on my partner. When we met 3 year ago he told me he had depression ( I also did at the time). we connected really well and everything was absolutely brilliant for around a year. I was previously in a physically abusive relationship as a child from 13-16 where my abuser was drunk all the time. I am now scared by the smell of alcohol and being around people who have been drinking . I eventually opened up to my partner and told him everything after a year . We decided to move out of the small flat we lived in and moved into a house around the corner with the intention of starting a family. Just before we moved I found out he had been addicted to tramadol taking up to 17 tablets a day! after endless battles and arguments I managed to help him off them and I thought everything was good. And so we moved into the house. after around 3 month I started to notice a difference with him. he would go out late at night and return drunk, lie , angry to the point I would be shaking(he never actually hurt me). a month later I found out I was pregnant I thought that was it everything would settle down. I was completely wrong. He got worse , i had quite a bad pregnancy as I have fibromyalgia and struggle with my joints so the excess weight was killing me slowly. he would be staying out all night turning off his phone when he had only said he was popping to shops. He would drink alcohol everywhere we went. anyway 6 month pregnant he started selling all his belongings worth value that I had bought for him and said he was saving money for a "surprise" for me. there was nearly £1000 worth of goods he had sold and apparently had the money there. I actually found out he was addicted to cocaine . before I knew this he would have me driving everywhere for him at 11pm at night 6-7 month pregnant because he needed to go and collect a game for the xbox. which was another lie he was collecting cocaine . so I eventually thought he had stopped doing it at 8 month pregnant everything seemed fine. he wouldnt go out and stayed in the house with me. my son was born but when he was 9 weeks old my partner overdosed and had a huge 6 hour panick attack in our back garden and I had to ring an ambulance . I found out later that day he had overdosed on amphetamine and social services were involved. so my son is now 8 month old and my partner still lies about absolutely everything he can lie about . pointless or not . he still had a few cans a week even though I've told him it makes me uncomfortable. he has an appointment with psychologist next month and says it's all because hes depressed but I really dont know if it is. I dont know if hes using that as an excuse to justify the way he treats me. when I told him I was leaving him he said he was suicidal and basically forced me into staying with him. I really dont know if he is a pathological lier or if he just lies because he gets anyway with it anyway.
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