Penis hole seems to be larger, light a slit or crack. It's destroying my confidence.
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I have a bad habit of exessively masturbating during very strong depressive episodes, to the point where I would push myself to ejaculate even if I didn't feel pleasure anymore. I am in a much better state of mind now, but I noticed my penis hole (or meatus, as I have learned after some paranoid research) seems to be bigger. It looks morel ike a crack now and, well, the images will do a better job demonstrating. I can still get erections, but this injury has been destroying my confidence, as I feel it is now something permanent that will stick with me for the rest of my life. I'm still a virgin, so I wouldn't know if women would be turned off by the sight of my penis. It's taking a huge toll on my mental health, almost emasculating, and I feel like there was a certain level of confidence I could reach before that I cannot reach anymore.
Is there anything that can be done about it?
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Guest ThRoWiTaWaYnOw3
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I'm not an expert, but I honestly don't know what you are trying to show. Look normal to me.
I honestly don't think a woman would even notice what you're worrying about.
However, this is just my opinion. Others may come a long and see what I'm missing.
michael34979 ThRoWiTaWaYnOw3
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Wee_Dugie ThRoWiTaWaYnOw3
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The issue that you clearly need to address is your mental health. Have you sought professional help with this via a Doctor for this? Our Mental Health is an accumulation of what we have going on in out lives, now, and the experiences we have had throughout our lives. I speak of this as someone who has had to address my own personal mental health issues for many years. Getting professional health can often provide a major boost in the way we regard ourselves now, and how we can establish and maintain a more positive outlook going forward in life for the future.
This is very difficult to achieve on your own - this is why we need professional help to achieve this. Even in the short posting you have here, you state a number of things of concern regarding your mental health. Seeking help is not a weakness, what you need is to summon the personal strength to say that you want to change this about yourself.
You need to see your regular Family Doctor / GP and ask them to specify what help and support you can access from mental health professionals in your area. Then, get a referral to one of them, then, the essential is to find a mental health practitioner you can work with - if they are no good for you - STATE this to them and ask to see someone else, or ask your Doctor for a referral to a different Mental Health Service.
If you are in the UK, many Mental Health Services take personal referrals, so find out about what services offer this in your area, either check on the internet, or look for public information at a main Library, or there are often leaflets at your GP Practice. There are also many Mental Health Voluntary organisations through which you can find out about the best services suitable for you - you can find these organisations listed on the internet, they have National and Local helplines, and you can stay completely anonymous.
Value what you have as YOU as a person now, and, what it is you want to achieve for yourself in the future - such as having relationships with women - get help, work to achieve a better self of SELF than you have now ....
Wee_Dugie ThRoWiTaWaYnOw3
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Yes, these images do more clearly show what you are getting at. What you need to clearly understand that the Human Body does not come in ONE uniform size - the male meatus will vary from the extreme where there is barely an opening, it is the case that your's is varying towards the other extreme. As long as it functions correctly there is no issue here at all.
As I have stated from personal experience of MY Mental Health issues, you can think too long about - 'should I, shouldn't I' - seek professional help - please believe me, YOU are using too many descriptives in your everyday language (I am a Social Psychologist) that describe how you feel about yourself that are alarming. You need to seek help in the manner that I have already described .... please do this as soon as possible ..... Good Luck !
peachy90 ThRoWiTaWaYnOw3
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There's nothing wrong with that. In my relationships I actually preferred a wider opening so don't let that ruin your confidence!!
peachy90 ThRoWiTaWaYnOw3
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I honestly think you are perfectly normal down there. My ex's opening was like that too and he didn't experience any pain or discomfort at all. So if you don't have any pain, I wouldn't worry about it at all or what a future partner would think about it because there isn't anything abnormal. People can stretch their urerthras through sounding, so it is possible to make your opening a little bigger. So maybe after all the times you performed masturbation, you could have somehow stretched your opening a little(i'm no doctor so that's just an assumption). My main point is...IT'S OKAY!!!!!
Guest ThRoWiTaWaYnOw3
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the new pictures show a simple (and statistically normal) variation. There isn't an issue there. As said above, human bodies aren't all "identical". Penises (and vaginas, and all parts of humans) don't come from a plaster cast all identical in every way. Look online at all the variation in non porn vaginas. What makes you think penises are any less varied?
The question is, does it work? If it does, there isn't a "problem".
As also said above, the fact you are getting so hung up on (to be bunt) something that is biologically trivial, suggest that there is something more psychological going on. Don't be offended when I say trivial. It's not trivial to you, I understand that. But from a medical point of view, it's a non issue. I doubt anyone would even notice if you hadn't brought attention to it.
I do think you need to find someone ( a friend, online community, or therapist) to think through the real reasons for your confidence issue. I suspect (trying to be gentle here) that you are using this almost as a distraction from those real issue, it's something we all do. I've done it. Mostly with size paranoia. Putting on my lay person's therapists hat (which i shouldn't do!) I suspect you have a lot of anxieties and insecurities, which aren't unnatural, regarding your virginity and with being with a woman and you are almost investing that anxiety into a particular, easy-to-conceptualise problem.
But I don't know. I'm waffling. All I can say is, life is short. Don't waste another moment convincing yourself that there is a problem when there isn't. No woman will even notice (and if she does no woman will care).