Peri menopause is making my vagina so dry it hurts why..

Why won't the dr give you estrogen cream? That worked wonders for me - within a couple of weeks my vagina was moist and plump and looked 30 years younger! Sex was wonderful again. Otherwise, you can use natural oils to soothe. I managed for a couple of years applying coconut oil (raw, organic, cold pressed) inside and outside every time I went to the toilet and vit e oil before bedtime (break open a 400iu oral capsule onto the end of your finger and apply inside). The oils will nourish and moisturise you vagina but will not make sex less painful. Yes oil based lube is also good. Because all these things are oil, it can seep through your clothes and show as an oily patch, so you will need to wear a panti pad. I work mainlyl from home so it is easy for me to apply the oil throughout the day. When I go out I take a small pot of coconut oil in my bag and apply with a round cotton pad after going to the toilet, obviously just to the outside because I don't trust my finger will be clean enough to insert when out and about.

same here, it really is very painful .. even with lubrication... feels like something is tearing... 😦

There is also sea buckthorn oil (oral capsules). Studies have shown that taking 3g of sea buckthorn per day is as effective as estrogen in improving the condition and thickness of the vaginal wall. However, it will not lubricate. I managed on sea buckthorn and applying coconut oil and vit e oil to my vag for a coulle if years. If you go on the vaginal atrophy forum, not the menopause one, you will see all the posts about it there. In the end we came to the conclusion that whatever you do 'naturally', in the end you have to use estrogen cream.

There is vaginal and also a capsule you apply to your vagina before ssx. Forgotten what it's called but you can get it at the supermarket. There are also non hormone treatments the doctor can give you