Perimenopausal, Low Calories, Dehydration, Spotting, Severe Phobia of Nausea, PLEASE HELP

Oh hunny i wish i could reach out and give you a big cuddle. Grief is a natural process but so hard to bear. I hope you have family support, if not counselling can be a huge help. Do you think some anti depressants could assist you at this difficult time?

also some anti nausea tabs, or sea bands or even ginger really helps. You cant go on not eating, ive lost 16 kilos through anxiety and health worry, i dont enjoy food just now but im eating coz i know i need to.

Drinking good filtered water is very important you will dehydrate which makes you ill. Ask your Dr for help, grieving can bring on hormonal imbalance so its not surprising your periods may be changing. I lost my mum 23 years ago and with that and work stress i became quite sick, i do know what you are feeling. X ask for help, treat yourself gently, you will get better but please see your Dr. And talk things through with loved ones, im not good with words but i understand your fears. Dont keep it all in, therapy could help you, along with meditation, mindfullness and even medication.

hugs sweetie 😘

Hi, I'm so sorry for your lose. You poor thing. It is hard I know I've been there myself.

For nausea drink ginger tea or peppermint tea. You also need to start eating more than 500 calories a day. Eat in small portions but try to nourish yourself. It's important for your body to get proper nutrition. I hope you start feeling better soon. Chia seeds help with reducing the symptoms of perimenopause. Eat them or make a drink with it to help quell those symptoms. xo

I am so sorry to hear what's happening to you...I too have no appetite..anxiety....had a brother murdered a year ago...feel like I'm loosing it ...terrible insomnia....I will send you my number in a private message if you need to talk . God bless

Hi my deepest sympathies to you.  I too have had emetophobia pretty much my whole life and I can understand you finding it difficult to eat when you are completely stressed and miserable.  You do need some more calories though - I usually stick to 'safe' foods when I'm particuarly anxious - bananas, cereal, fish fingers, mashed potato, etc and I have to force them down as I don't ever want to eat when I'm anxious.  You may find the nausea fades a bit if you can get a bit more food into your body - I would try eating little and often. In my experience peri has increased my anxiety more, having been quite calm about it in my 30 and feeling I was on top of the whole emetophobia thing. I guess we just have to hope that this too shall pass. Very best of luck to you and I hope you have some supportive friends to give you a hug. x 

I am very sorry for your recent losses.  I too have recently lost my father, and was his primarly caregiver for the last 3 1/2 years due to Alzheimer's disease.

Grief is not just something we feel with emotions.  Our bodies and brains also react.  It's no wonder that you are feeling physical issues, with all this grief and stress.  

It is very important that you force yourself to do everything possible to take care of yourself right now.  Eat good whole foods, rest often, take naps, get a good mulitvitamin, drink plenty of water, go to bed by at least 10pm every night, get some exercise several times a week, see a counselor, talk with friends who will listen.  Provide every thing you can, to support your body in this difficult time.  It is very common that periods cycles can change and become irregular with this sort of stress.  

Please be good to yourself, and hopefully you will see light at the end of this life changing tunnel.  

SO sorry for what your going through, you've had a really rough year and this perimenopause only makes it worse. Please keep your head up, this too will pass. You have to eat better, vegtables, fruit and protein to keep your strength up and help you feel b tter. Know that wevare routing for you. All my best