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Perimenopause and libido

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evi75119
evi75119

Sorry for the private nature of my question, but I was wondering if you have noticed any specific days of the month with increased sex drive?

​Since I am going through this perimenopause hormonal hell,  my sex drive is almost non existent  but I have noticed that the 4 day of my cycle and 2 days before my period starts, there are the only times of the month that I am having sex drive...only 2 days during the whole month! Other times I am or depressed or full with painful symptoms...

​Thank u in advance

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  • michelle92591
    michelle92591 evi75119

    Posted

    Hey Evi, can say I really don't have a sex drive. Just not interested.I usually don't think about it and have no energy. I am 50 and have been with my husband for thirty years. I am still attracted to my husband and I have told him that. I am lucky he is very understanding.

    • pam90720
      pam90720 michelle92591

      Posted

      Ditto to everything you said, Michelle...

      And the pains no fun, either!! 

    • evi75119
      evi75119 michelle92591

      Posted

      The paradox with me is that I am very young for this transition....I will be 32 years old in a few weeks. 

      ​Hormones have already destroyed my life and my relationships...My last relationship ended because of my irrational mood swings. 

      ​And for the last 2 years I have severe estrogen deficiency symptoms both physical and emotional.

      ​I am young and I think I am still attractive but no healthy at all.

      ​I am not interested for men most of the time. 

      ​Lately, I have met a very handsome guy who is flirting me but I keep him away because I am ashamed of my condition. I would like to feel alive again...It is like a curse in my case.

      ​I firmly believe that I need HRT. To be honest, this option is my last hope...

      ​

      ps I believe that before my period and on my period I have LH surge which may explain my sex motive increase. I can feel ovulation earlier than 15 day... around 7 to 10 day of my cycle

    • Guest
      Guest evi75119

      Posted

      Have you tried birth control pills?
  • tina00239
    tina00239 evi75119

    Posted

    Hi there evi, I am exactly the same! Just before my bleed is due, I am well into having sex, but the rest of the month I have absolutely no interest at all. I think its down to hormonal peaks and troughs. I think it's quite normal for this process, so don't worry, you are not alone in this either. XXX

  • Guest
    Guest evi75119

    Posted

    I’ve always had peaks at certain times, even when not in peri. Although who knows? I hear peri starts early and I had wicked night sweats starting in my 30s. 
  • cynthia00141
    cynthia00141 evi75119

    Posted

    I’m post menopausal now at 54.  My libido is non-existent.  When I was getting my period, I always had the most libido during ovulation.  I think nature made us this way in order to produce.  So yes, it’s definitely hormonal.
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