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Perimenopause craziness

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lisa06231
lisa06231

Hi all.

Just want to share some of my symptoms & craziness with you all.

So i've been going through perimenopause for about 6/7 years now.

My symptoms range from, aching joints, very very dry skin ( itching like theres no tomorrow ), insomnia, fatigue, crazy mood swings, i went to the seaside last year with my family where i found a little boy who was lost, when his father was finally located & reunited with his son i cried like a baby in front of a very packed beach (i wanted the ground to swallow me up).

I don't think i've ever felt so tired in my entire life, theres days where i have to crawl back into bed.

I have also lost all my friends as I didn't realise at the time that the way i felt was down to perimenopause & i managed to alienate all of them till they eventually fell out with me, I just wanted to be alone all the time & making conversation & doing anything was just too much trouble.

I am very angry a lot of the time & my poor husband gets the brunt of it.

Brain fog & forgetfulness is ridiculous (i'd forget my head if it wasn't screwed on) I have to set alarms for everything from appointments to taking medication & everything else in between.

My periods went from being regular as clockwork to every 3 & a half weeks apart to now just spotting occasionally.

I really don't want to take HRT as i've never been a fan of medication, i prefer to try & ride it out but i'm at my wits end so if anyone has any natural remedies i could try i'd be grateful for all suggestions.

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  • shannon69971
    shannon69971 lisa06231

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    Its like you tapped into my head and wrote down everything I have been feeling. I also have been going through this for 6 to 7 years. I'll be 47 next month.

    • jaye58413
      jaye58413 shannon69971

      Posted

      Age 47 is when the menopause ball started rolling for me. I'm now postmenopausal. My cycles finally stopped at around age 56. Praying for better days ahead for you.

  • trinity03
    trinity03 lisa06231

    Edited

    You are NOT alone. This transition into menopause can be absolutely brutal and I believe there needs to be more awareness and education about it-even in the medical field. My previous ob/gyn was shocked at some of my symptoms,which I know to be perimenopause related,thanks to this forum and others sharing their experiences. The medical community needs to spend more time studying what is going on and how to effectively treat us going through it.

    The emotional and mental aspect of it is especially debilitating at times. I have literally collapsed onto the floor in tears of frustration and panic. Like you said, the brain fog can be intense. I've missed out on so many things because I feel like I'm going to lose my mind at any moment. Holding it together takes every ounce of energy I have, which leaves NO energy to do anything else.

    I wish this transition was just hot flashes and irregular periods. It's a million other things as well. Hang in there!!!! You are NOT alone.

    • bev27429
      bev27429 trinity03

      Edited

      What a fabulous response, Trinity! You have captured perimenopause perfectly. Never in my wildest dreams could I have imagined the torture that I have had to go through over the past five years, and I say this without even an ounce of hyperbole.

    • c14889
      c14889 trinity03

      Posted

      Yes! Well said! The last 5 years have been very hard, but seem to be getting better some days. There are some days and moments when I feel exactly that way; like I am barely hanging on. Any idea when it ends?

    • jaye58413
      jaye58413 trinity03

      Posted

      You hit the nail on the head. Doctors are at a lost when it comes to menopause. I went to quite a few when I was first having horrible symptoms. I'm now postmenopausal and learning to ride it out as best as I can. I was thought to believe it was hot flashes, dry vajj, mood swings...if only. As you stated, it's a lot more. I did not have horrible hot flashes, nor dry vajj. Mood swings under control due to therapy and meditation. Praying for better days for us all.

  • jaye58413
    jaye58413 lisa06231

    Posted

    I wish I could give you a magical formula to help you. I've tried everything under the sun. I can say my anxiety has gotten a lot better. The main thing I'm going through is muscle tension. Some days are better than others .but if there's a trigger unbeknown to me, the tightness gets worse. Which I'm sure the trigger is stress which is impossible to avoid. Seems like the body gets very sensitive once it reaches menopause. I am a believer that better days are ahead for us all.💕

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