Perimenopause or Anxiety or ???

Hi anxiousface, thank you so much for your kind words and consideration. I'll let you know how the diet goes, i'm going in to the 3rd week and i'm hopeful as I do feel a little better and I've had a really good day today, but I've had good weeks before and then gone back to all the horrid symptoms. As I said before I don't think anyone understands unless they've actually experienced it, I am getting on with my life but when it's at it's worst it practically makes me immobile, even going to say something to someone and I literally can't talk or it comes out gobbildigook - bizarre. And it's not funny at work when your brain goes numb!! I get flushes sometimes but they are mild and don't worry me much. Walking helps with the agitation/anxiety (the worst symptom for me), I walk for a mile, have a really good cry (!!) and then feel much better, the dogs don't mind . As you say, hopefully one day soon we can look back at this horrible/weird time and wonder what it was all about, and we will always understand those who have yet to go through it. I always thought my periods would stop one day and that would be it!! I hope you find some relief soon, I guess it's just finding what works for us. Hug back to you xxx

You could be me, have all them symptoms......its a shame that they cannot find a drug or something that will help during this time, my kids all doing their own thing, should be a good time for me and my husband, but instead im a moany anxious sweaty mess most of the time and the only movement in the bedroom is me throwing the duvet of frequently lol, im blessed to have him but still think he deserves a medal sometimes

Hello andrea66776

Welcome and good to hear from you, its such a horrid time, no one warned me about this and anyone I've spoken to just flew through the menopause so look at me as if i'm mad. I've just been out Christmas shopping with my husband as i don't go anywhere on my own any more and i did want to go but was so dizzy and anxious when i got there i had to come home so i'll have to go on line this year which isn't the same. I totally know what you mean about our husbands, mine is such a trouper and understanding so far but i've only been like this for maybe two year and i read it could last ten. Like you my son has left home and life should of easier but with this perimenopause i feel trapped and just want my life back. I so envy everyone who can do normal things. Sorry i'll stop moaning now. What i should be saying is we can fight this and we will come through it. take care of your self. sending you a hug x

Hi I started the menopause 10yrs ago & my doctor put me on HRT. I had to have estrogen only because I had an hystoretcomy, but they left my ovaries. I was put on Elleste Solo 2mg & I was mavellous for 5yrs, then my doctor retired & I was given a new young one who made me come off it. After I complained he sent me to a menopause clinic & the doctor there was a woman who said that I was one of the few women who really suffer from lack of estrogen so she recomended that I go on it for another 2yrs. By this time I started seeing a differant doctor & I've been on it for 10yrs in all now. A couple of yrs ago I changed to the lowery does of 1mg & I still felt marvellous on that too. When I went for my last prescription it was decided that I would try to cut down to one pill every alternate day. Well I've given it a good try now for 2mths & I can't stand it any longer so I've gone back to one every day & I can't wait to feel marvellous again. As far as I am concerned I want to stay on it forever. x

Hi me again I had to cut my last message short because my lovely husband told me that my tea was ready & I didn.t want to upset him by seeming ungrateful. Can I just add that I know HRT doesn't suit everyone but as I can't tell I am taking anything with any bad side affects, I have decided that as long as my bones are being proteced & my heart who wouldn't want to take one pill a day if it made them feel mavellous. When I first started the menopause I had my bone density checked & I was told that I had started to lose bone & that if I came off HRT that I would start loesing it again.Now that I have gone back on one pill a day with a bit of luck I should be back to normal in time for Christmas.By the way if in the future I can no longer get anyone to prescribe HRT for me a friend has given me hope as to how to get it in the furure.I feel so sorry for all you poor ladies who are suffering unnecessaryly. I got my inspiration from Terresa Gorman when I read her book Hoorah For HRT I even told my lovely doctor to read it because like I told the young doctor that I had been given 5yrs ago. Men don't know what it's like to be a woman, but my present doctor says that it is my choise & I love him for it.I even offered to sign a disclaimer but he said that was not necessary. x

Wow, I am so glad I stumbled upon this! I am 44 and last year had a weird dizzy feeling come over me at the gym that was the beginning to constant feelings of everything that everyone has been mentioned here. I have been so worried for the past year, yet I am one that will worry and NOT go to the doctor for fear of hearing bad news. I am a widow and mother of 3 so I have an extreme fear of something happening to me. Anyway, I get this 'off' feeling that hits me out of nowhere at times, I can simply think about it and it happens. I get very foggy, my vision if in a public place that is bright, gets very sensitive, I lose my balance and need to hold on to things. i get a weird sensation that I think my heart is stopping and I get a flush feeling in my face and feel like I am going to faint, yet I never do. Last year it got so debilitating that I wouldn't leave my house alone and had several stops at the ER where I never went in but swore I was dying....or felt like I was but in my mind knew I was creating it. As many times as I've had these episodes, if real I wouldn't be here to discuss them, but yet my mind gets so convinced these are real symptoms that I cannot stop them. It is terribly scary. I managed to somehow get over them for a few months or at least learned to start thinking about something else when I felt the anxiety starting. This week it's started all over again. I am not wanting to leave my house alone yet I am because I don't want this to run my life. I had to stand in line for 3 hours yesterday at a store waiting to buy a special Christmas gift for my son. What a challenge. I felt like I was going to pass out, kept feeling flush and knowing I had to stay in that line and couldn't leave just made it worse. I finally started talking to other people in line and forgot about it and made it through. I then think how crazy I am because if I had a heart problem like at that moment I was thinking I had, I wouldn't recover and suddenly be ok...so frustrating. I am extremely tired all the time, I don't sleep well, go through periods of way too hot or cold throughout the night that keep me up, I'm dizzy, sensitive to bright lights or going to a place where there are lots of people and activity= sensory overload for my eyes and brain to process causes me to get dizzy, dry skin, just feeling 'off' most of the time. Yet while at home I am exhausted but the anxiety typically stays away and I feel safe here...just nowhere else. I never thought menopause or hormonal issues could be doing this, I was sure it was cancer or some horrible illness, which isn't helping me with my anxiety. I think I am relieved enough that it may just be something fixable and common that I can drag myself to my doctor now...thank you. Seems silly but I have been terrified to go for fear of the worst.

Hello everyone - so glad I found this! Everything I am reading is me! This has happened to me over the past 12 months and I thought I was going mad! It started with flu over Christmas last year and it took me a age to get over it. Then the chest pains - 3 trips to A&E to be told it was muscle strain then reflux then anxiety! Various tests all came back negative then the crying started - I'd just burst into tears preparing dinner! Hot flushes whilst sat at my desk then night sweats, palpitations, dizziness and feeling very anxious whilst shopping - not great when you're a dedicated shoe shopper Periods are becoming slightly erratic and either very heavy and painful (not usual for me) or hardly anything for a day or two. I'm 44 so think I must be perimenopausal - may go and get those bloods done - once I've plucked up the courage to go back to the GP as I've also become worried about going for fear of 'bad news'. I know it's all irrational but I'm taking it one day at a time - I've found gentle exercise helps and a lovely supportive husband! Keep going ladies - we'll get there in the end! X

i have these exact symptoms.. which at first i never had.. now i get them nearly everyday... for the past Year.. it really is hard to live with. ive literally started taking Serterline (50mg) 2 days ago and already have headaches, dry mouth and nausea.

the only think im not sensitive to is light and hearing

i have health anxiety so every little niggle im worrying about... im so glad im not alone because without other peoples insite id be a goner now.

I have been suffering for close to 6 years with the same stuff. Started as dizziness and headaches(had scans showing all good) then went to panic attacks, anxiety and headaches (ssri's tried and failed). I kept a log of symptoms which now include high blood pressure! And found that for me, I was fine for the first 2 weeks of my cycle but from ovulation onwards I was really terrible! Subsequent hormone testing showed low to zero progesterone and I have been using a bio identical cream (prometrium capsules are the same - a natural progesterone so very safe!!) this has taken a little while to stabilize I.e. I have to take every day and not just for 2 weeks, but has helped anxiety enormously. I was pretty dubious but yesterday I was late putting my cream on and thought I would have to go to hospital I felt so bad with racing heart, dizziness etc. one hour after reapplying cream, all was well. I am going to start supplementing wi a small dose of estrogen to fully eliminate the headaches (just waiting on results of new blood tests to confirm. Don't give up! I have tried everything, acupuncture, hypnosis, cbt, anti-depressants etc. etc. I was so ill at one point I hardly left the house for six months! For me, nothing worked but I feel hopeful now that things are improving. Don't write off all forms of hrt before giving them a fair trial

Hi

Hi my name is louise and i am 46 years old,i have had anxiety now for 2 and a half months,i am going back to work tomorrow,and i am so scare,i have been there 14 years,the thought terrifies me.I am on anti depressants,and oxexepam to help me sleep,i hate taking medication,and sometimes i am scared to sleep.I have had 4 ecgs and wore a holster monitor for a day and had blood tests done,all spot on,please help me,im scared i am going to lose everything,my husband,my job and our house.

Hi louise

If the antidepressants aren't working go back to your doctor. It is terrible, but please try to remember it is just anxiety and you will come through this. Have you had your hormones tested? I have now been on estrogen for 3 weeks and feel much better! I also had lorazepam to use on really bad days. Do you have something like that? Please go back to your doctors. My doc was throwing ad's at me every visit. For me they didn't work and I wanted to solve the real issue (menopause). I also hate medication but am relieved to be on hrt. Have a look on menopause matters - it's a fantastic site with lots of really useful info.

You will get through this!!