Perimenopause sucks but its a natural process,need some more advice

where do i begin?

i am with a lady that i have been with for 22 years and have 5 children to add to this.

life is full of experiences which we have to learn from in order to evolve and this goes for relationships to we can learn from our experiences but we must not live there.

now i thought i was the problem in the relationship as every relationship has its ups and downs and i thought that this was a kind of payback call it karma for my downs through the relationship.

a year ago roughly things started to change where my partner was becoming a bit off in her actions etc

like mood swings i mean could shout one minute and literally straight away she could be nice,she also started feeling like she wanted to be alone literally alone no mum,dad,sister,partner,children etc and noise from children would do her nut in she also started to tell me she did not love me like a partner more like a family member but at the same time she wanted me to be her friend where she can talk to me when she wants to she also says that when i am talking it starts to irritate her and this goes for others as well

as for me saying i love you stopped,no kissing,no touching no loving text messages no phoning to see if im dead or alive or if children are well,she also has moved out to her mums in a single room where she can be left alone she is taking a mini pill for her monthly cycles because she hates having them because they have caused her severe back and leg pain as well as the heavy bleeding.

she also has told me that when she looks at herself in a mirror she wants to smash it

she is totally on it when it comes to her hair and eyelashes and lips.

and has constant anxiety if something little happens like a eyelash of her new eye lashes lol

anyway as she was going through her process i was going through my process which was understanding and showing true love but for her she was going in the opposite direction which is not like her.

there are hot flashes one minute and then feeling cold after and migraines are a problem sometimes as well as other conditions with perimenopause.

its hard to try and look after a house and 3 young children that go to school and 2 adult children who also need advice to with life and any issues that may occur with them whilst trying to fit in some work in between as well as getting time for myself.

and because people in the family that call themselves nan and untie etc do nothing for us and never have its pretty hard so its almost like im a single father but still having my partner pop round when she wants to show her face from time to time whilst im sitting here with love waiting for her to get through the other side

now i have researched as much as i can but would like any feed back in regards to perimenopausal

has anyone else had these experiences or symptoms or is she just tired of the same old sh.....t

will she change or come around?how long roughly?and does the love come back the words,feelings,libido etc anyone had experience of this?

does the relationship improve after? and what tests and treatment is there that can help her get through some of these symptoms?

she seems to be having nearly all the symptoms all at once does this mean it will end quickly or not?

ALSO A MESSAGE TO ALL MEN DONT GIVE UP ON HER SHE NEEDS YOU EVEN IF SHE IS RAGING AT YOU DONT TAKE IT PERSONAL SHE IS GOING THROUGH A PROCESS IM SURE AFTER IT PASSES SHE WILL REALIZE THAT YOU HAVE STUCK BY HER AND THINGS WILL BE DIFFERENT

IT IS ALSO AN EXPERIENCE THAT YOU CAN LEARN FROM TO GROW.

AND IF SHE HAS CARRIED YOUR CHILDREN TO HOW DARE YOU GIVE UP ON HER AFTER WHAT SHE HAS GONE THROUGH FOR YOU

AND YES SEX IS A MAIN THING THAT MEN LOOK FOR AND HENCE IF THEY DONT GET ANY THEN RELATIONSHIP CAN GO DOWN HILL BUT IM SURE SHE WILL REALIZE THAT YOU HAVE GONE THROUGH IT WITH HER IF NOT THEN ITS ALSO OKAY.

but would like to here from those who have gone through the same experiences or symptoms as im gathering info to understand whats going on.

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