Physical Intimacy lessen peri symptoms ?
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Hi,
I was just wondering about the difference going through perimenopause
with a spouse/partner compared to alone,if being sexually active actually
lessons the symptoms to a degree.I've read that being intimate can be beneficial in helping to regulate periods so I'm thinking there must be many more benefits I'm not aware of.My spouse and I are apart for months at a time due to work so I don't experience it myself ,there's a lot of switching on and off with the physical intimacy.I imagine if understanding and closeness continues the transistion would be easier than alone also.Just don't know.
I know I look and feel much younger and energetic and positive when together.
Thanks in advance for any input
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Sochima822 Fairywren
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Everyone's different. Some women lose libido for a long time while going through perimenopause/ menopause, while others don't lose much at all. It's good that you enjoy having the closeness with your husband. Also, if you still have periods your hormones are keeping things going, it really transitions when you're entering menopause. This when some women experience the need for less intimacy and low libido. An organic proper diet seems to help reduce those effects. But so does cutting out sugar and caffeine.
jeny86397 Fairywren
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Morning fairywren, I have to say that I am very lucky that my partner is amazing, we are still intimate and I definitely think it helps, maybe it's all in my head, but I couldn't imagine not having that and going through this as a singleton.great to here that when you do see your partner you feel younger, energetic and positive, have a great day, x,
anetta94863 Fairywren
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lori92895 anetta94863
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Life and happiness shouldn't be about sex. It should be about love, devotion and loyalty. My husband also is not interested in sex due to obesity. With my perimenopausal symptoms I don't want sex anyway. I have had 2 and three month long periods. I am a christian and think a lot about heaven and how one day I'll go there and all the problems of this world won't mean anything and how they shouldn't while I'm here either because this is just a short time in my life's journey.
?Life's short, stay true.
Guest anetta94863
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I think sex is an important outlet if our libido is still intact. It releases a lot of 'feel good' chemicals in the brain and I've talked to women who say they got thro menopause with a glass of wine and sex! Many others don't want sex at all of course. Neither is right or wrong. I do think tho, having an affair will only add to your stress, you may even lose your husband if found out. Can you talk to him about 'helping' you have an orgasm even if he doesn't want one?? Or can you cuddle him for physical contact then fix yourself up?? Not ideal, but maybe an alternative??
Fairywren
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Thanks all for your replies,I'm Christian too and recently married after 11 years of not being sexually active so the gift of showing love physically is important at present.It is bonding and healthy when it's possible.
Dear anetta it would be worth it to go to a councillor on your own even ,you do already have something very precious even though it mightn't feel like it.I know what it's like to a degree,but my man's words in type even mean way more than sex and I keep myself for him .It's a big sacrifice .Romance is important , in the old sense of the word .Maybe getting to know your man all over again through messaging and letters,at 48 it's a good time to kind of go over our lives so far.Send each other music links you like,remember stuff from when you were young.Love letters to help you reconnect.
I know my libido is greatly affected by my spouses interest in me as a person,praying has helped me be keep positive and keeps imagination at bay when we are apart for months at a time- he prays me too.Eating healthily is amazing!Getting out and exercising when s******y frustrated is wonderful.
I'll see if I can google anything about the topic ,there's probably not much
Sochima822 Fairywren
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anetta94863 Fairywren
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Guest anetta94863
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I think, dear Anetta, that it sounds that there's a lot more going on in your marriage than just the lack of sex.... Lots of anger ( can drive depression), lots of frustration. Let me ask you, do you love him? Do you want to stay with him? If you do, having an outsider (a counsellor) can give you both a new perspective and strategies to heal your marriage. If you do not love him and he is treating you badly,....well, life is too short...do you need to start anew with a new partner? I know a couple of you girls are Christian and that may not sit well with you, but if your health is suffering that much I think the worst thing to do is stay the same...it's obviously not healthy.
Sochima822 anetta94863
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So I just got told my comment was negative??? Didn't mean it that way....I am an honest talker!
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BugglyBot Fairywren
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All I can say Fairywren is that I lost my libido years ago and then last year, it came back and my desire for sex was amazing. My husband got ill in 2011 and up until 2016 we didn't have sex because it affected his ability. Thankfully, after talking to him, he said he'd felt similar about things but hadn't said anything as he didn't want to upset me. He's a very thoughtful guy, bless him. I'm happy to say that our sex life is doing well, with a few hiccups given my husband's disabiity and my hormones but I feel a lot happier.
I feel younger and lucky to feel this way. We're all different though and what suits one person, won't suit another so we have to go with how we feel and try what is right for us as individuals.