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vicky02516
vicky02516

I think my ex partner and kids dad has bipolar we are still close n get along. His moods can last between days to months. They have lasted up till about 6 months but since we split up he can go from really high to low in a day n last less than a week he seems to be yo yoin. Some of the things he did was on high he would be the life and sole of everywhere. Wanted to do everything at once decorate the whole house build a play house everything in a day. Would go to the shop and end up spending his entire wages on flowers n gifts or rubish so much so I used to have to take his bank card. He used to bounce around whilst talking and not wait for replies before changing the subject . Quit jobs n not care n run up thousands of pounds of debt n not care.not sleep n run around like superman. When he was low he used to disparate over debt shut himself away not talk to anyone even me. I could not touch him or even go near him. He would just sleep all day and night n go into rage for no reason usually with objects. And is suicidal he has even tried before a few times. there are times when he's neither n just inbetween. When I try to talk to him he says it everyone else. Everything his does matches bipolar except how often and how much his moods change. What could this be bipolar what else could it be I want. To help him with it but not sure if it definitely is can anyone please help

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  • sfarrell38
    sfarrell38 vicky02516

    Posted

    I was diagnosed with Bi polar last September 2014, the symtons you have put on here are exactly the same as mine, I have run up a mountain of debt which I will never be able to pay back, bought rubbish that we don't need and was also the life and soul of the party. I got referred by my doctor to a Psychiatrist who confirmed this. I am now taking Lamatrogine 400mg and Quinapine on a night 200mg to help sleep. I now don't have the mood swings and feel I can cope better with daily life, I know I will be on these for life but I couldn't live without the tablets. Hope this helps
    • vicky02516
      vicky02516 sfarrell38

      Posted

      Hi sfarrell thanks so much for replying. When researching the only thing that didn't match was the amount of highs n lows he had and how quick they can change he can change on a week from high to low with no middle then be normal for a couple of weeks then go high again. The longest he has been in a high is about 6 months same probably for the longest low but the lows are normally shorter than his ups. When I read up it says about 3 mood changes a year he can have a lot more than this a he'll of a lot more
    • vicky02516
      vicky02516 sfarrell38

      Posted

      Could it still be bipolar did you fluctuate a lot between the two. Sorry for all the questions and thank you so so much for replying thank you. And I'm so happy your feeling better x
  • sfarrell38
    sfarrell38 vicky02516

    Posted

    Yes the highs and lows are different for everyone, I could be great for months and months then came a big low which you never really know is coming perhaps it's the debt that brings it on the letters coming through although I'm with a debt management company now so it's not to bad, I would definitly get referred it was a good think and it helped me
  • Highsandlows
    Highsandlows vicky02516

    Posted

    I'd say the best way to approach it is to print out all the symptons and an information pack and catch him at a good time and ask him to read it. That's what my wife did for NMR and it was a massive realisation. When he's on a manic one he won't see it as that he will think that's his normal self and he experiences lows from time to time I would imagine? That's what I did. It took a long time to admit this myself and I do miss the hypo manic episodes but not as much as I miss tga massive depressions. How long has he been like this as I have been told the episodes get closer and closer the older you get and the longer it is indigenised til it cycles more frequently/ evenly. IMO it's inportant to get treatment underway as soon as possible.
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