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Please help..Got diagnosed 2 days ago :(

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lewis08288
lewis08288

Im speechless...2 days a go I got diagnosed with this damn virus...Im going through a roller coaster of emotions...Im super scared, angry, upset feel completely unwanted and dirty...I already have a super stressful job and now this..its almost becoming unbearable..feels like my heart is bleeding...Havent managed to sleep..

I slept with this girl I liked unprotected...my own damn fault...I got symptoms like it was Gonorrhea (from internet descriptions)...how ever as I scrolled down the test results everything was negative....apart from HSV 2.... my world ended... I am now waiting for my first outbreak and completely scared of what it may be like... I see images on the internet which completely freak me out... Im 31...and getting to the age where I want to find my future wife....now I have this... I feel like that dream is shattered...This is so worrying its 1am... Im scared I will lose my job due to my lack of focus and that I will never find a partner... sad sad sad 

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  • gijane
    gijane lewis08288

    Posted

    Hey there lewis I just read your post & my heart always breaks to new comers. First you need time to adjust, seriously the diagnosis is the hardest part. If you haven't had an out break yet your fortunate & you may never actually get one.  That being said if I may I can tell you that this condition is far from destroying everything.  It's an adjustment.  When I tell partners I have this I tell them I have the cold sore virus.  It's not so harsh said that way & they let me educate them & then decide.  The best advice I can give you is to de-stress. Stress is a trigger for an out break. You can still find your true love, this virus makes it a little harder sometimes but it makes you really see people for who they are. Keep positive & go about your day like any other day.  You will be back to yourself sooner than later.  Just educate yourself Trust me 17 yrs of this I've learned it's all psychological. Best of luck
    • lewis08288
      lewis08288 gijane

      Posted

      Thank you Gijane...today was very tough..im normally the high energy guy that motivates everyone around me..but today I was quiet..only slept 2hrs last night..people thought I was sick at work.. I keep checking myself to see if Im having an outbreak..guess its been nearly 2 weeks now..I find most websites freak me out...I have stopped talking to a girl I really liked that lives abroad and was going to come visit me...I thought she was already out of my league before and now I feel like theres not even a glimmer of a chance..when do you tell someone? What if she goes around and tells all her friends and then the whole city knows what you have... 

      Reading your story helps and shows me there is hope...but I when I look online..most of the stories are of Girls who find a guy who loves them for who they are..even with the virus....I know I would if I met a girl I loved...however girls have way more options..so why would they want to be with me?

  • carol32160
    carol32160 lewis08288

    Posted

    First, please don't look at the pictures on the internet. The internet seems to put the images of really severe cases up. I never had a really bad outbreak, like the internet shows. Just make sure your taking your medication. Now, realistically, yes you will have a hard time finding a partner. Especailly someone who is will to have sex with you without a condom. However, their are people who have herpes and are married, with kids. Like me, i had herpes for 12 years, been married for 10 yrs. and have 4 kids. I just make sure i take my meds. when i feel a outbreak coming on (which isn't alot) to keep my husband protected (he still doesn't have it) and me comfortable down there. Stay hopeful, take your meds. and if someone comes along that you really like, just be honest. You'll have your family.
    • lewis08288
      lewis08288 carol32160

      Posted

      Thank you Carol, I will keep away from Google images search... it was already tough finding someone before and now...like you said I will have to find someone that loves me..but how will they know if we only been dating a little bit? Would a girl without it really carry on dating a guy that had it? My confidence is gone... I feel like damaged goods

       Im a strong believer in God...one day maybe I will make sense of it...im so happy you found someone and have had kids I dont want to be taking medicine everyday of my life...I have always been the one to never take meds during a flu etc..as I believed my body was strong and could handle it. Its been 2 weeks and  outbreaks yet... I pray I never have one..

    • carol32160
      carol32160 lewis08288

      Posted

      Hi lewis, i don't know how old you are, but take your time dating. Don't rush things, such as moving on to sex too fast. Let her get to know YOU. And i know it sounds crazy, but sometimes love overlooks things. When you do find that right girl, please educate her, let her know everything you know. Sometimes people fear being in a relationship with people with herpes because they are not educated or haven't done research. All they know is i can caugth it. You can catch a cold too, but if you take precautions then you won't (bad example comparing this to a cold, but you get my point). I am not a pill taker either, but "Naturalcure 99" is right. Ever since i started exercising and eating healthier i see a tremendous change in outbreaks. And i will consider trying the lysine. I too am a deep believer in God, and God knows your heart desires. If you desire to get married (to an understanding women) and have kids, talk to God about it. He will guide you on how to go about pursuing a wife and choosing one. Sometimes when stuff like this happens it stops us in our tracks and forces us to look at life differently.
  • kori26
    kori26 lewis08288

    Posted

    Once you have an outbreak go to the doctor and have them do a culturl swab. That's the only 100% way to confirm the virus. If you do have it, remember that it will not kill you and that its controllable. It's heart breaking and it's hard. You will have happy days and you will have bad days. Try to stay positive. It's not the end of the worod, it's a skin condition. stay strong. ❤️
    • lewis08288
      lewis08288 kori26

      Posted

      Thanks Kori.. I tested 2.69lg cant see how the hospital would mess up..but I will do a culture test if and when I get an outbreak rolleyes I have only told my Dad about it as he is my best friend...Im so sad.. like you said good days and bad days..when I feel no symptoms it will be a good day or if they ever invent a cure ( seems impossible ... ) 
    • kori26
      kori26 lewis08288

      Posted

      I found out in August and I still cry and get sad. But the way I see it, that's bound to happen in any kind of stressful situation. Some days I feel like I have no one. Then I get on here and see that I'm not alone. I've actually started eating a lot healthier, taking vitamins and lysine everyday and my generic valtrex when need be. I mentioned the culture test BC my doctor told me that blood tests can give back false positives. I haven't had an outbreak since August. Like I said, stay positive and remember that you are the same person you've always been. Just with an annoying skin condition now. Time will ease your mind and help you come to terms with it. The serenity prayer gives me strength. Find your way of being strong. 
    • lewis08288
      lewis08288 kori26

      Posted

      Keep strong Kori...use this experience to make yourself a better person..sounds crazy...but im reflecting a lot into how I was living life before.. I will look into that serenity prayer.. why dont you write it out for me? smile
  • lewis08288
    lewis08288

    Posted

    Thank you everyone for your kind words.. I will be checking in on here frequently its great to have support by compassionate people who take their time to help others.. May God bless you all
    • Naturalcure99
      Naturalcure99 lewis08288

      Posted

      Go to your health food store and buy lysine, it's a amino acid that your body can't produce on it's own, that and a healthy diet, stress management, and exercise will suppress outbreaks as well as speed up the healing process. 

      Keep your immune system healthy as outbreaks will make you sick with flu like symptoms. You'll know your gonna have an outbreak in advance. You may want to change your lifestyle into a health advocate like me, otherwise your likely to have outbreaks every other week. 

    • Naturalcure99
      Naturalcure99 lewis08288

      Posted

      Go to your health food store and buy lysine, it's a amino acid that your body can't produce on it's own, that and a healthy diet, stress management, and exercise will suppress outbreaks as well as speed up the healing process. 

      Keep your immune system healthy as outbreaks will make you sick with flu like symptoms. You'll know your gonna have an outbreak in advance. You may want to change your lifestyle into a health advocate like me, otherwise your likely to have outbreaks every other week. 

    • lewis08288
      lewis08288 Naturalcure99

      Posted

      Thank you... I will do just that...time to have a brand new healthy lifestyle want to do all that and pray meditate....try to turn this negative experience into a positive  path in my life...will also be more selective in who I date and how I date girls...
    • gillian20097
      gillian20097 lewis08288

      Posted

      The prayer of serenity 

      God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.

      Courage to change the things I can and wisdom to know the difference.

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