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memelover123
memelover123

hi, im a teenage girl suffering from many chronic illnesses. i was depressed before i got sick, but it has gotten much much worse. ive developed anxiety,but im learning to cope. my pain from chronic illnesses is unbearable. my doctors think its mostly in my head, which may be true, but i know that im sick. no medication has helped a little bit, besides sedatives. my doctor gave me ativan for a few months but refuses to give anymore, but it helped A LOT. currently im so depressed omg. i feel hopeless. i can barely go to school, i dont have friends, im in pain 24/7 and theres no way to escape. my family used to be understanding but isnt anymore. theyre very meab and make me feel worthless. i see a counselor but she doesnt take me seriously. im already on anti-depressents. ive tried to kill myself once, but i am too afraid to do it completely. i just want my suffering to end. someone help me please

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  • anon85986
    anon85986 memelover123

    Posted

    Hi, i am sorry how badly you feel. 

    Is there anyway you can get a new counsler? sometimes, kids don't speak up for themselves and suffer through bad professional help. Can you request a new therapist?

    Why wont the doctor give you ativan?  Can you ask for another doctor too?  Makes me so mad that no one is listening to you.

    What are your chronic illnessess?  Can you talk more and tell us more details. There are a bunch of people hear to listen to you.

     

    • memelover123
      memelover123 anon85986

      Posted

      hi,

      this is my third counselor in the past year lol. im really trying to open up and really talk about how i feel but nobody has ever seemed to help. therapy is pointless.

      so i have postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome and ehlers-danlos syndrome. POTS effects the autonomic nervous system and effects every aspect of how your body functions. for me, it affects my gut the most sad

      i have a specialist for it, and she prescribes all my medication. since ativan is addictive, she will no longer give me any and it sucks!

    • anon85986
      anon85986 memelover123

      Posted

      Hi,  I don't understand how these adults in your life can think your pain is made up. So upsetting to hear this. I googled your conditions and they sound really challenging.

      For Potts they say a high sodium low glutten diet and exercise is really helpful.

      Maybe you could ask for a lower dosage of ativan or tell her you NEED something else and cannot just have it go untreated.  I hate that someone as young as you really has no advocates. Whatever you can muster stand up for yourself and demand that they address your depression. Those jerks. I have recently read so many posts from teenagers that are completely ignored.

  • chris24688
    chris24688 memelover123

    Posted

    Oh honey it was you maybe about 40 years ago hanging breathe I'm here for you if you need me

  • Anxietysufferer
    Anxietysufferer memelover123

    Posted

    I know exaclty how you feel! Im a 17 year old girl suffering from depression and anxiety! And having both is pure hell sad i also believe that i am ill. In fact, everyday i feel like i could just drop dead at any moment ! Ive been suffering from premature ventricular contractions lately which are very bothersome but benign and harmless. I even had an episode of bigeminy ( pvc every other beat) and felt like it was harder to breathe! I went to the cardiologist earlier in the summer and got all the tests done. Everything was normal! And after that day they went away for a while. But started to come back a few weeks later but this time more severe! Which worries me and i never wore a monitor sad

    Every time im at school i go to the nurse during lunch to lie down because i feel like i could pass out any moment! And its scary! I typically dont have a lot of friends either and a lot of people know about my anxiety and depression but just brush me off and tell me that there is nothing wrong when i keep feeling that something is! I wanted to go to the ER to get a monitor but if i tell my mom this she'll just yell at me and say " i dont want to talk about this anymore " ive been to 11 doctors over the summer btw. Thats how bad it was. I had a counselor too! But the sessions ended already and i cant go back because my parents think that i dont need it anymore when clearly i do!!!!

    But for when you said you wanted to kill yourself? Please dont kill yourself! You might want to argue that i should not be saying this and that i dont get what its like to be suicidal... Believe me i know! I was suicidal at one point.. But somehow i managed to get rid of those horrible thoughts. There are so many places you havent been to.. So many wonderful people out there who you havent met yet.. Cute puppies everywhere.. So why? Why do you wish to be dead?

    I definitely understand what its like to not be taken seriously, becauss whenever i talk about this my parents always try to change the subject or they get frustrated.. Which frustrates me because i feel like everyone thinks that im just doing this for attention and that im just a stupid teenager who just has stress and is lying about this whole thing!!

  • barbara22845
    barbara22845 memelover123

    Posted

    I truly hate you feel so bad and nobody is helping. One way to get help is to talk about being suicidal in front of a school nurse. They should have you admitted to the hospital and the counselors there will listen and recommend you need more help. Going in a the hospital physc ward is not as bad as it sounds. I had problems as a teen and parents that didn't listen. The hospital was actually a good experience because I was with others that understood and that helped. Knowing others were feeling as I did and talking about it, along with classes and people that really listened and cared was rewading for me. The nurse is not allowed to tell others your problems. This is confidential and I would remind her that you don't want the other students knowing about this. It may sound a little drastic but you should get good results. Suicide is never the answer and when we feel this our only real choice, is a cry for help. Please don't do that and their is help. I pray you find help soon and get much better.

  • SteV3
    SteV3 memelover123

    Posted

    Hi MemeLover,

    Going by your username I am assuming you're a Facebook addict, like my daughter is!

    Sorry, to hear that you are going through all this, at such a young age. Your own parents really need to be more understanding, more so these days than ever before. We have 3 children and our youngest has just reached her 16th birthday. She has had counselling via her academy, but to be honest she said they were asking her such personal questions, that it made her even worse, not better. She even said to the counsellor, her depression was because of the Academy, not her home life. The problem was because of a Teacher's Helper, which you'll understand in the next paragraph.

    Our daughter has always been very close to us, as parents - so anything going on in school, she could talk to us about it. What we didn't expect to hear was that she was being bullied by a Helper in her Classes, making sure that she would be put on report. Once on report, we started to keep a diary of all her lessons, and in which lessons where her so-called behaviour was terrible - after just 5 days we seen a pattern forming, the Helper was causing her to get detentions and bad results. I contacted her tutor about what we had been doing and I emailed her the result of the Helper in each case. The same day her Tutor, had a word with that Helper, she never told our daughter off for anything, or even spoke to her.

    But our daughter lost her best friend in an accident at just 14 yrs old, it took us ages to get over it, and especially a young teenager. We managed to get her through it, and out of feeling down all the time. It took time, but we eventually got our daughter back to her normal self.

    There is one big difference in our house, we have brought up our children to respect people, and do not let anyone bully them. Instead, we go through the correct channels, but inform us first. We do have a close 'knit' family.

    Many families lack either in education or just have no clue how to treat children, which in our current society is bad. Dealing with teenagers can be daunting at first, but if you bring them up properly then they will respect you more, and trust you - none of our children (we have 2 boys and 1 girl) have had any problems, and teachers ocassionally phone us about something, but we already know. It doesn't matter if it is good or bad, Teachers cannot believe that our children will tell us everything that goes on during their days in school, they even say to my wife and I, that it is good that they feel they can ask us anything, not many children can.

    Anyway, let's look at your case - it is totally different, and I think you'll see a different side to how you are currently thinking, at the moment. There are plenty of people on this website that will talk to you - if you cannot find a way to talk to your own parents, there are plenty of people on here that will. Okay, they may not be around your age, but if you can confide in anyone, it is a start - you never know who the people are or where they live, that keeps you safe being anonymous. You'll probably find it is easier for you to chat to someone, Okay, I've made quite a few friends on here, but that's me - we are all different, it would be a boring world if were all the same.

    I have looked at the other posts regarding this disorder which seems to affect 15-50 year old females, but it can also affect males.

    Before I answer any questions to anyone with depression, I normally look for possible triggers - this is because I suffered from depression myself, but even though I am on anti-depressents even now, but I feel fine these days with a very positive out-look on life, hopefully we can help you get over this depression - I know it can be difficult, but in your case - it seems your own doctor is at fault with the medication given to you.

    I personally, would take a look at this page for patients, then take a look at the page for doctors, whom should read it and take note of what it states they are supposed to do. Pay attention to Management, Review of medication!

    Postural Tachycardia Syndrome (PoTS)

    For patients:

    https://patient.info/health/postural-tachycardia-syndrome-pots-leaflet

    For doctors:

    https://patient.info/doctor/postural-tachycardia-syndrome-pots-pro

    You stated you were ill before becoming depressed, do you realize that being on Anti-depressents can cause an adverse effect, hence you become worse when you suffer from Postural Tachycardia Syndrome (PoTS)? Which is probably why you feel, so bad.

    Your doctor should be informed of this immediately!! It can also cause a prognosis that is totally wrong, hence treament would also be wrong.

    Doctors are supposed to check this website for detailed information, going by everything you have stated it seems, your doctor has not even read or looked at the doctor pages of your problems. Surely, they must of checked with the BMJ (British Medical Journal).

    Which could get your doctor into serious trouble.

    If I were you I would ask your doctor to read the Doctors side of this disorder, before supplying you with more anti-depressents.

    I hope this helps you, in many ways and with a positive outcome!

    Regards,

    Les.

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