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karen_12358
karen_12358

I had a hysterectomy in 2011 at 41 after a lot of problems & im on hrt- I thought I'd be a new woman once I had recovered, and I WAS feeling better & doing ok... however in 2013 I hurt my back and have suffered ever since constant chronic pain effecting my day to day life. I'm in a drugged up stupor most of the time because of strong pain meds (was addicted to tramadol but got myself off them) every 6 months have nerve blocks in my back to help with pain.

On top of all this I've a non functional kidney that's causing major pain and general unwellness - I'm waiting for a date to have it removed. I also have high bp reading yesterday at drs 183/133.

I'm also on medication for anxiety & depression.

I have constant exhaustion I could sleep 24/7 have headaches, muscle aches even getting dressed is an effort.

Have no motivation for anything I've had no relations with my husband for months - I love him so much but my health is taking its toll on both of us.

I can't hold a job because I'm always poorly or get sent home poorly- we're struggling to pay bills we only have his wage this in itself isn't helping.

My passion is my two horses and I'm so uninterested it's heartbreaking I look after them but as soon as I leave the house I want to come back home. I have a beautiful little dog and in my head I want to walk and walk with her but I just can't.

I feel for my children as I'm always lying down and can't do anything with them as I just don't have the strength. I can't even go grocery shopping- the cupboard are bare.

Hubby knows I'm quite ill but not how I feel- I have a happy I'm ok face I put on and he's the pull yourself together your being daft kind of man... and to be honest I feel embarrassed.

I feel so guilty lying in bed when he's been in work since 4am.

I'm so so fed up I want to get up with zing and look forward to my day - but each day is filled with nothingness and me feeling poorly no energy or motivation.

This morning I sat with a bag of pills... I thought about it but I wouldn't hence my post on here.

I'm 46 I can not go on for another 20 odd years like this.

My recent bloods were normal - why am I feeling like this? Why am I so poorly? can high bp make you so ill? I know my kidney won't be helping.

sorry for the long post but I need some help & support - I'm so very sad.

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  • mrsmop
    mrsmop karen_12358

    Posted

    Hi Karen, I am so sorry that you are feeling so helpless.

    I wonder whether you have seen the programme 'The Doctor who gave up Drugs'?  It was on BBC 1 & there were 2 episodes, the second one was this week.  It is available on the iplayer & well worth watching because I think it will give you hope.

    You are obviously very depressed & need support which you aren't getting.  Doesn't your GP's surgery offer help?  

    What drugs do you take every day?

  • Misssy2
    Misssy2 karen_12358

    Posted

    It seems that your antidepressent is not helping you much.

    Can you change?  Can you go to more therapy? Doesn't seem like people in the UK talk much about therapy.  Are you in the UK?

    Do you exercise? I know that you dont feel well and probably have zero motivation to exercise..but I suffer from chronic pain as well and when I exercise I feel better (I'm not an exercise freak) I only couldn't find anything else to make me feel better and decided I would try anything.

    Since every website I go to suggest exercise...I tried it...and find some relief from both anxiety and pain.

    • mrsmop
      mrsmop Misssy2

      Posted

      Where are you Missy?

      I was assuming that Karen was in the UK, which was why I suggested that she should watch the programme  about the Doctor who gave up drugs.  He was advocating that patients should give up their painkillers & other drugs & try various different forms of exercise.

      A lot of people were resistant to exercise & also giving up their drugs. Some people want a quick fix, so they were taking more & more pills.

      The Doctor found that GPs would tell their patients to exercise but not offer them any support.  He found that, with support, some of the patients achieved great things.

      I hope Karen is able to get the support she needs.

  • karen_12358
    karen_12358

    Posted

    Hi I'm in U.K... I take mirtazapine (plus OxyContin for back pain as well as bp meds)

    Yes I exercise with my horses.

    Never had therapy - my gp is always concerned but nothing ever changes.

    We only have one dr in village surgery so can't change.

    I'm just so down.

  • mrsmop
    mrsmop karen_12358

    Posted

    Have you checked that the drugs that you are taking, all of them, are compatiblt with each other?

    You need an interactions checker, did this feeeling happen to coincide with when you started any of your drugs? 

    • mrsmop
      mrsmop

      Posted

      Using oxyCODONE together with mirtazapine may increase side effects such as dizziness, drowsiness, confusion, and difficulty concentrating. Some people, especially the elderly, may also experience impairment in thinking, judgment, and motor coordination. You should avoid or limit the use of alcohol while being treated with these medications. Also avoid activities requiring mental alertness such as driving or operating hazardous machinery until you know how the medications affect you. Talk to your doctor if you have any questions or concerns. It is important to tell your doctor about all other medications you use, including vitamins and herbs. Do not stop using any medications without first talking to your doctor.
    • karen_12358
      karen_12358 mrsmop

      Posted

      My dr knows of all my other meds.

      I've been taking them all together for around 2 years.

      I don't drink alcohol at all & I work my meds around if I have to drive.

      I take OxyContin- I think it's probably the same thing - slow release pain killer. I don't take any vits or herbs.

      Thank you for your reply x

    • Misssy2
      Misssy2 karen_12358

      Posted

      seems like one of your replies was taken directly from a prescription interaction website.

      My Dr. also knew the medications I was on but did not warn me of a possible seratonin interaction. When I asked why...they told me because it was very rare to have a seratonin reaction....

      Seems like you and I are the "rarities" across the globe~

  • lyn1951
    lyn1951 karen_12358

    Posted

    I can relate to being in constant pain, it really pulls you down.

    After my Hip replacement I managed to rupture a disc in my lower back and the two above it are bulging, couldn't believe you could be in that much pain and remain concious, has changed level of feeling in my legs not completly numb, but at times feel as though they are until I pinch myself, and feel cold all the time.

    Dr's put me on really strong painkillers which only made me sleepy, all i wanted to do was stay in bed.

    Decided that I just could not stay like I was, treading water at the local heated pool with noodles under my arms seemed to help with stretching out my back, allowed my lower body to completely relax and just fall away under me, after about 3 weeks, worked up to an hour 3 times a week exercising/treading water was able to get rid of the painkillers, when I feel twinges now I get straight back in the pool, I was able to give up the painkillers completly, and my general health has improved out of site.

    I think it has been a mix of strengthing up my back muscles with exercices, getting rid of the painkillers, and generally being healthier because of the exercise, my long term arthiritis has even been helped, and so has my depression, brought on by the pain and my inability to work, I almost feel as though I could go back to work, but now have a 10 year gap in employment history which is in itself diffucult.

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