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Please help with my obsessive thoughts...

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cheyenne49274
cheyenne49274

Me again lol.

I struggle with OCD, obsessive/intrusive thoughts, and things that are similar. My husband and I have both been struggling with low sex drive (him more recently) and we were talking last night about it. He said "I really have no desire to go elsewhere for sex", him just reassuring me that he feels that way in all aspects to sex and not just in our marriage.

Of course, this makes my head go trying to think about anytime I might have had desires or thoughts for sex elsewhere and of course I say "well what if I have had thoughts/desires like that" because I just feel the compulsion to say stuff like this for his reassurance or else my mind will just go and go. I know we all have thoughts but I do not think I have had true desires.

After I told him this, he had a very worried look on his face (understandable) and I got very scared by his reaction and started feeling sick. He said "Well I just want to make sure it is not a constant feeling you have or else that would be a problem." I told him no that it was not a constant thing and I said that with full confidence even though I knew my mind was going to obsess over that answer afterwards.

Basically the whole day today I have been worrying about what his definition of "constant" would be in regard to that. I keep thinking I do not think it was constant but maybe he would. I am afraid to ask him what he believes constant would be because I am afraid of the answer.

I do have thoughts where I "check" myself for my OCD (would I feel like having sex with this person, etc) and now I am worried that this would count as thoughts/desires and these do occur a lot because of my OCD. I know this is probably very hard to follow and understand. Please help in any way.

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  • jan34534
    jan34534 cheyenne49274

    Posted

    sorry you are struggling with this. For the OCD are you getting any counseling?

    I was thinking that if you’re not getting counseling it may be very beneficial for you to get that kind of support. That way you can get some answers from a professional Who could help you manage this and it would put your mind more at ease.

    keep in mind that no matter how many intrusive thoughts you have, they are just thoughts. Nothing more. You mentioned that yourself when you said that they are thoughts and that you had no desire to act on them. That’s all you have to remember. people get all sorts of thoughts all the time but don’t necessarily act on them. Don’t torture yourself with this. Take care

  • sasical72
    sasical72 cheyenne49274

    Posted

    Hello,

    Do you take any meds for ocd?

    I have ocd and my therapist says it's very difficult to manage without meds.

    In this case you just have to follow each thought with "these are just my ocd thougths, they are not true".

    I do hope you are getting dome help as ocd is exhausting.

    Best of luck x

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