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Please i need some advice, so scared

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john03601
john03601

im totally freaking out and I'm the type of person to have really bad anxiety and stress myself out.. But here is what happened.. 9 days ago I had unprotected sex with a girl I didn't know so I guess you could say it was a one night stand. The day after we had sex I texted her and asked her if she was std free and she said last time she was checked she was I never asked when that last time was. She then tells me that she is going to get checked again because I made her paranoid. She tells me yesterday that she tested positive for genital herpes. In the process between when we had sex and her telling me this news a day or two after I felt tingling sensations on the tip of my penis and I had urinary retention. I got checked for chlamidia and gonerria and a uti(excuse my spelling) everything came back negative. I have never shown any symptoms before and have never had a tingling sensation for 9 days on the tip of my penis. I immediately went to planned parenthood and wanted to get tested for the virus also. The doctor asked me if she was showing any sores so I texted the woman and asked her she said she has never seen any symptoms and still hasn't seen any or felt any. The doctor told me to wait 3 months before I got tested. But right now I am freaking out because of this tingling sensation on the tip of my penis and about 4 days ago I got this little little what I think looks like a pimple on the left side of my groin. The doctor also told me that if she wasn't showing any signs that I have a 5% chance of contracting the virus from her.. If it's not herpes which I am praying it's not what could it be?? And is it true what the doctor said??? I am really doubting myself now and feel as if my life is over, i can't even tell anyone because I am so scared and don't know what to do I feel like life doesnt mean anything right now...

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  • Topp
    Topp john03601

    Posted

    I had tingling a day or 2 after protected sex. I had flu like symptoms, aches, lower back pain, and still no OB so now I have to wait a few more months for accurate testing if I don't get an OB soon. So it's like I'm in limbo but Im sure I have it. Sucks man. Definitely daunting .
    • john03601
      john03601 Topp

      Posted

      I don't have any outbreaks either I don't think and just have had tingling.. I feel like I have it also it does suck man. Because we r in limbo waiting for an accurate result to be certain... I don't see myself getting out of this one..
    • Topp
      Topp john03601

      Posted

      Yeah I don't see myself getting out of this one neither. I'm a female, did everything right, don't sleep around, used protection, and now this. Like a bug F U to me. Ugh
    • john03601
      john03601 Topp

      Posted

      I hope everything's works out for you! There is still hope for us! I'm going to try and forget about it unless I have an outbreak
  • FelizCastus
    FelizCastus john03601

    Posted

    You are freaking out without enough details or facts on hand. How was she tested, blood or swab? If blood, which test, IgG or IgM? If positive, which HSV type? Find out these answers first. Your pimple could well be just a pimple. If you're really paranoid, pay for a pcr swab. Most accurate swab test for herpes. Get them to break the pimple open if it's already healing.
    • john03601
      john03601 FelizCastus

      Posted

      I wish I could know this information the woman that had it tricked me most likely knowing the whole time she had it with never telling me. I just can't believe some people and how they want to impact a persons life so drastically without giving them the choice. She blocked my number because I was asking to many questions
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus john03601

      Posted

      Well, if she tested by blood, like I suspect, then she could easily have Type 1 due to cold sores, which is very common and often asymptomatic (even more so than genital herpes). It is not something people usually test for and don't always know that they have, so I wouldn't jump to conclusions without the facts. If she tested by IgM, it may not even be accurate.
    • Guest
      Guest john03601

      Posted

      The guy that has POSSIBLY given it to me (im waiting to test again) blocked me when i started asking him too many questions too. I would never do that to somebody
    • john03601
      john03601 Guest

      Posted

      Yeah I'm sorry to hear that it sucks because you just want answers to help pin point where you are at.. Just have faith
  • john03601
    john03601

    Posted

    So update!!!! The dr said that these symptoms wouldn't show up right away and this tingling sensation wouldn't last for ten days without any breakout and this would be my first time having the virus so the dr said your first time you should breakout and it will be obvious you have it. Always told me that it is rare not to breakout for your first time. Continuing the dr said to relax and not stress over it if you don't a breakout in these 3 months.. I know it's possible to still have it and not breakout but is what the dr saying true?
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus john03601

      Posted

      Most first outbreaks present with obvious symptoms within a week of infection.
    • john03601
      john03601 FelizCastus

      Posted

      The dr said typically you have a cluster of multiple ones on your first outbreak I'm trying to stay positive because the dr also told me it would be a rare occurrence of her passing it on for a one time affair showing no symptoms.
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus john03601

      Posted

      Not everyone has the classic symptoms. Lesions can be single or multiple, clustered or spread out, classic blisters or just bumps/sores. But it is doubtful you acquired it in this instance for the reasons I've stated previously.
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