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Please need advice on dating!

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april66960
april66960

Hi I've been speaking to this guy for a while now and he's really nice we are both attractive to each other and I've had to stop myself from having sex with him because of this 😕 How do you tell someone? I don't want to have sex and tell him after and him to be mad with me amy advise would be much appreciated 😊

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  • linda73146
    linda73146 april66960

    Posted

    Tell him...or write him a letter or email.

    He has the right to know.

  • so06472
    so06472 april66960

    Posted

    Better tell him rapidely so he doesn'T feel like you kept this information from him. I told my current boyfriend after a few weeks after even thinking I might never tell him. But it's not fair and you better know already what he thinks about this issue. If he's scared and leaves, at least you'll know. That being said, you can tell him without making it sound like big deal. It's a skin condition, and so many people have it, it's not a thing he will never see again, he might even have it without knowing it. Knowing you have it makes you able to prevent any transmission. Etc etc wink Good luck!

  • Guest
    Guest april66960

    Posted

    I've been having the same situation... I told the guy already and it was fine, but I don't feel comfortable to have something with him and risk to pass it to the other person. I don't even feel comfortable with myself since I got the first breakout.. I feel herpes means a big problem for us because we know already how uncomfortable and painful are the crisis but for someone who never had symptoms they don't take it that serious.. If he loves you he is not gonna run away

    • april66960
      april66960 Guest

      Posted

      Thank you for replying it's so hard to find the right time though to tell him we've been on a few dates and it's moving really fast I want to do stuff with him but feel like I need tell him first

  • FelizCastus
    FelizCastus april66960

    Posted

    Do you even know which type you have? Did you have an outbreak before? I wouldn't email, as you don't want your disclosure in writing and in a format that can be easily linked back to you.

    • april66960
      april66960 FelizCastus

      Posted

      Hi I've got type 2 but haven't had an outbreak now for 4 months we're both attractive to eachother and I just keep putting it off because I feel like I need to tell him first before we do anything

    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus april66960

      Posted

      If you have gHSV2 and you hope for this relationship to be serious, then yeah, you should disclose before you get too intimate. At least you are on daily suppressive meds, but use condoms, too, if it gets to that. If this is a recent infection for you, you are potentially more infectious (first year, in particular), just fyi. Good luck!
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