Positive HSV Male advise please..
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Any advise from positve Male's would be welcome. 1) I'm HSV 2 positive have been 15 years and on Valacyclovir daily. 2) I held back from sex with 1st man (recently divorced) so that he could take time with making a decision following my disclosure of HSV 2 to either move forward or not to in having sex with me. 3) He choose to move forward. 4) Sadly our 1st encounter was bitter sweet. Condom broke and I gave oral 1 x. -We understood the risk.. Or so I thought he did.. His afterthought turned to months of panick. Our relationship suffers.. He went for reapat testing over 6 months. He recently had IgG positive result for HSV1. (Im a bit Baffled) with this because I tested IgG positive only for HSV2. Each of us had both tests. He's been honest about coping with his diagnosis.. And has withdrawn from any physical dates with me (this after our 1st time and for months we had sex fully clothed). He still suggests having interaction with me- this until he figures out how ..just needs time..ok.. I get it.. My question is and I believe he's a distancer in the first place with a desire for me.. How do I respond the withdrawal and less frequent communications and welcome of text flirtation only..? What phases do you go through from a male perspective in acceptance? Trying to wrap my head around this while being redpectful and also devastated by the out come? Any male advice?
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Koolredd Woman50ish
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But at the same time it's a risk that you take when you decide to get involved with someone who is hsv positive in any way ..
And trying to move on and start a new relationship is out of the question .
It's crazy because like you said he knew what he was getting involved with when he got Invovled with you so why is he acting like this ?
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FelizCastus Woman50ish
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Sounds like he's one of those types who says it's okay, then goes ahead, but realises it's not really okay. If he has been fretting, testing frequently and acting more distant since your very first time, and if that was months ago, that is a huge red flag, I doubt he'll ever come around, and I would honestly step back.
Tell him you like him lots, but clearly he's not okay with things, so ciao. If he is okay, then tell him he needs to act like it. A bit of tough talk will make a fence-sitter get off on one side or the other!
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