possible ED??

Katie

I want to thank you for helping him. Men of all ages have this problem at one time or another. There could be a lot of things that will cause this Antidepressents this is one of the many side effects. Could be something else to. I think the best thing for you to do is go to a urologist. he will be able to help him. Tell him not to worry. Stress is not good for him either.

Relax and Good Luck Ken

A low sex drive is a common symptom men can have while on Anti-Depressants. How long has he been on Anti-Depressants? Was his sex drive fine before he was on them? if so, I would suggest that he talks to his primary doctor about his medication. If it isn't due to his medication, he should visit an Urologist.

1. his medication aint helping in regards to the ED Matter
2. id suggest having his testosterones levels checked by his primary
3. consult with urologist

Hi Katie, many thanks for raising these issues on behalf of your BF! There can be short-term, quick fixes to things like this - such as taking prescribed tablets so that he can maintain his erection. It is probably the global picture, broadest perspective that the real solution will eventually come from. As Kenneth suggests, probably the best person to start looking at these broader perspectives would be a Urologist as a Doctor (particularly a UK GP) does not have the time to go into the finer details of what else your BF has going on in his life.

Essentially, it is overcoming issues, such as you describe, 'he does try' - 'does not have the drive' - antidepressants certainly have lots of side-issues, I know, I have been on a number of them myself. Fundamentally, you need to look at why there is an an actual need for the antidepressants in the first place ... perhaps there is an alternative to these such as a Talking Therapy, perhaps a combination of the right medication and the right form of Talking Therapy, perhaps even Sex Therapy?!

You say he has tried 'inhancement pills' - are you talking about cialis, little 'blue pills' that kind of thing, or are you meaning Penis Enhancement, like you would use to have bigger stronger erections, or perhaps in a bid to gain extra size? Performance anxiety and being frustrated is not a good place to be either ...

In terms of the global picture, you would also need to look at what is he doing most of the time: does he have a job that he sees as worthwhile and gains fulfillment from? Perhaps he is in academia, still doing research, that kind of thing? Is he sportingly active - does he gain satisfaction from this, perhaps he is not happy with this .... ? That kind of thing .....

Even if the two of you really love each other and desperately want to make your relationship work, sometimes this just isn't enough and an essential ingredient is missing. Such as are the both of you fully relaxed in each others company, much of the time? Can you 'mess-around' - have fun together - enjoy each others company, other than when you are trying to have sex together? Can you both be passionate, in physical terms with each other, even before the issue of needing to perform sexually together occurs?

Or is it when the door is closed, when you are both at home together, the time you spend together HAS TO entail getting the sexual side of things right - and this for your BF, may be about performing like a proverbial stud, or even like a male porn star, for example. For whatever reason, expectations of what is thought should be taking place are beyond reach, and are therefore never achievable - it is only by breaking down the unrealistic, in addition to the things that are from the broader perspective that are simply 'not right' anyway that ALL may be adding up to create the situation as it is now ......