Possible Genital Herpes and extreme pain. Feeling extremely upset
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I'm a 21 year old female. I've been in a new relationship with my boyfriend for 4 months. My partner and I have always used condoms since becomming sexually active at the beginning of us dating. We were sexually intimate on a sunday, about a week ago, and didn't use a condom for about 10 minutes. The following days I had very mild burning when I peed. That thursday night however my partner and I engaged in sex without any condoms. That Friday I woke up at 6 AM with the pain still there and also a red bump on my vagina along the bottom inside of my vagina. I thought it was just an ingrown hair.
So I went to the Dr tested positive for UTI and got on antibiotics. That sunday, 2 days later and a week after the night of no condom for 10 minutes, I woke up and now had 3 red bumps on the other side, inside of my vagina. They all looked the same. I immediately went to the ER and had them swabbed. I should be getting my results tomorrow but the Dr. believes the new bumps I found Friday morning were Genital Herpes. The original one just an infected hair follicle. He put me on something for the outbreak.
I've only been sexually with 1 other partner 2 and a half years ago. It was 1 time, with a condom. I've given oral to two other guys between that and now but never showed any oral or gential symptoms. His sexually history is 2 long term relationships of 2 and 5 years.
Is it possible I contracted Herpes from my current partner on sunday and had an outbreak 4 days later? Also, If I am positive, I don't know how to tell my boyfriend. He's never showed symptoms so he could just be a carrier. I don't want to ask him to get tested and make him feel that I'm accusing him. Or him be positive and blame me. When the doctor told me I may possibly have herpes I cried pretty hard. I don't know how I'll handle being told I'm positive. I so emotionally distraught that I can't even go to my classes or focus. The pain is awful too, I can't pee without almost crying. Sorry I have so many questions. I don't want to believe that I got herpes from 1 night of no condoms.
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bethan67449 ddICE
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FelizCastus ddICE
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Some testing advice to address one of your concerns. If you were swabbed and the result is positive, you can immediately ask to do an HSV IgG antibody test for the type you have (must be done sooner rather than later). If you never had it before, it will come back negative, and that's how you can prove it didn't come from you, but him: positive swab with a negative IgG (not IgM). Means you have it, but you've yet to produce enough antibodies because the infection is very recent.
Hope the above helps!
Pipalongstockin FelizCastus
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ddICE FelizCastus
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A question about the blood work though. If I found out today I'm positive and went tomorrow to get the blood work would that be too late? I'm also taking acyclovir. Not sure if that's important!
And if my boyfriend were to go get tested would it be blood work as well? Would he for sure show if he was a carrier or could there possibly be a false negative?
FelizCastus ddICE
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FelizCastus Pipalongstockin
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Koolredd ddICE
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If he does have it he doesn't know which means he probably got it from his ex .. Rather HIS ex knows or not is an unknown answer.. It's different for males and females . A female is more likely to have an outbreak within the first 1-2 weeks of activity. A man might not even show signs for years .
I went through the same thing sweetie , the best advice I can give you is use a&D ointment to keep it moist, when it's lubricated it doesn't hurt as much..
If the test does come back positive for herpes . Everything will be okay . There will be good days and bad days, the virus isn't deadly .
And if you don't have it , just thank god you got lucky and live and learn from this situation ...
Being diagnosed with this type of thing is nothing to play about it .