Post A & P repair ,they don't tell you everything
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I am a 49 year old and 8 weeks post op after having both an Anterior and Posterior repair . I have found my recovery an extremely long road one which I don't feel I was really prepared for . Upon leaving the hospital post op I was given information on both repairs explaining the proceedure , complications and a very brief guide to returning to normal activities (pelvic exercises, dissolvable stitches , when to resume sex and do not lift anything heavy) but they didn't tell me everything ! They didn't tell me any of the following : I would put on weight just by looking at a crumb of cake , I would be very emotional , my periods would be all over the place , I'd have to wear a sanitary towel all the time which just adds to the discomfort , the feeling as if I am carrying a tennis ball in my Virgina , dissolvable stitches which haven't dissolved , aches , pains , tiredness , the constant fear of constipation and many many more side effects .I had a check up with the consultant on Monday (5 days ago) and explained I felt as if I may have a bladder infection and my undissolved stitches were very uncomfortable ,I could feel a large swelling at the front of my virgina and I had been bleeding for 2 weeks on and off he proceeded to give me an internal examination . Well I walked out of his office with antibiotics for a suspected bladder infection , an antibiotic cream just in case I have a virginal infection and my stitches unremoved as he preferred if they remained as I was still healing .But that's not all I left his office with , later that evening I felt incredibly sore from the examination and had to take the maximum pain relief every day since .I found it differcult to walk and sit upright , only today was I able to resume my daily walk . He also signed me off for another 4 weeks and has asked to see me again in 2 weeks time . I'm really fed up and just want to get well and start feeling better and I even want to return to work !!!! Anyone else experiencing similar unhappy times
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Jan999 helen12670
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cherie52481 helen12670
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helen12670 cherie52481
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nannylin helen12670
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Gardener_Jo nannylin
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I lost my core strength and found everything such an effort.
i am glad to say I am now pain free and everything is working fine.
I know it's cliche but things do get better, stay positive, take all the help that's offered, and get better at asking for help!
helen12670 nannylin
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helen12670 Gardener_Jo
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nannylin helen12670
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You are so right about the weight going on I'm eating more cos I'm bored and not doing enough to burn it off. Anyway I have had my hair done today to make myself feel good. Thanks so much to everyone who posts on here it's so good to hear we all have the same worries and problems. Xx to all
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nannylin helen12670
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helen12670 nannylin
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keepsmiling15 helen12670
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Sending you get well hugs! I can understand how you feel. I am sure things will improve in time. I have just had keyhole surgery for a uterus prolapse and i thought i would be better now but i am having good days and bad days and i am 4 weeks post op and i was told i should be fine in 2 weeks! I too have been worrying and will probably need a anterior and posterior repair in the future! It is not fun being a woman! But hang in there and you will get better. The human body is a remarkable and you will recover. Think positive!
helen12670 keepsmiling15
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nannylin helen12670
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helen12670 nannylin
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nannylin helen12670
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keepsmiling15 helen12670
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I know how you feel with all the worry etc. I am always feeling anxious and stressed but i keep saying to myself, i just need to give myself more time. You feel very alone and tearful because you feel your life is on hold and i relate to wanting to feel like a normal woman again. I had a sacrohysterpexy to put the uterus back to where it should be and i even feel a bit of swelling on my bits and mine was done laproscopically. So you will have swelling down there with what you have gone through. When you start with the pelvic floor exercises when the time is right for you it will help you. When the stiches come out you should feel alot more comfortable. Another big get well hug to you! You will get better eventually!
helen12670 keepsmiling15
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keepsmiling15 helen12670
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You are very right in saying that the mental trauma after post op is probably the most worst thing ever after gyno surgery. I think they need to incorparate councelling for this after the op. There are so many women that so alone and stressed after surgery and it is not always a topic you want to discuss with family and friends. As far as exploring your vagina after surgery it is never welcoming and then you worry more. I always try and say to myself who actually sees your under carriage anyway ! Husbands probably cannot even remember and millions of women are never happy with their bits who have not even had surgery! Vaginas come in all different shapes, sizes and colours and they are never all the same. 50% of women actually suffer with a prolapse of some degree so you can imagine that can change alot of things down there anyway. And also women are never happy with other parts of their bodies such as their face, bum, thighs, breasts,etc and the list probably goes on and on. Please stop worrying Helen. You will eventually start excepting what has happened and you will getter better. A good trick to distract you from tears is to move your tip of your tongue around the roof of your mouth. It distracts you brain. I was told this trick when i wanted to be stong at a funeral and not cry too much! You can use this when you do not want to burst out into tears. But let those tears out at other times, it is all part of emotional healing. Time will heal Helen. Look forward to life and try to smile everyday! Lots of hugs Keepsmiling : )