Post Prostate Surgery...

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I am scheduled to have my prostate remove at the beginning of next month.. Can anyone tell me if my sex life will possibly stay the same , decrease, or increase???? Also, I'm a 47 years young in very good health

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    As far as I know from reading people's stories on the Prostate cancer U.K. site, you won't get any erections after surgery. If you look on that site you can read lots of people's stories. Some men recover after a while, others not at all. But your age will help. Please don't go into this thinking it won't happen to you. Be prepared. Good luck.

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    No one can tell... It will most likely be at least a year before you will know. You may well regain your elections, but your orgasms will most likely be dry
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    I am 56, fit, and 14 WEEKS post surgery, nerves spared. Not a sign of a natural erection yet, but do with the pump. Only using that for physio, not sex. Time will tell, unless I jeed radiotherapy too which will probably end the chances of natural sex. However, I did have a dry dream organs a few nights ago, which surprised me, but no erection.
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    Hi andrew

    had my prostate removed just over two years ago. My erections came back but when on top they faded quickly. Use a tablet an hour befog sex and that works for me. Sexual activity is as it was befor just not spontaneous.

    The time it takes to recover is very individual and you need to be patient. I had nerve sparing on one side only and was aged 55

    Have blood tests very 6 months. All ok so far.

    Best of luck

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      Hay miketytus, thanks for your advice... I'm a little nervous but know I will be okay. Thanks again

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    Why are you having A prostatectomy? Is the cancer in several areas? There are alternatives which have much better chances of saving you from ED and incontinences. The path you are on will cause ED for upto 2 years or longer or maybe even forever. You may have problems with controlling or holding back urine and need pads. Your penis will be about 1/4 to 1/2 inch shorter (no one tells you this unless you ask). You better do your research before you jump on the surgery table because you need to know BEFORE your surgery the success rate AND all possible side effects. Checkout HIFU (and other options). You don't want to set yourself up for buyers remorse. If you decide to move forward with a prostatectomy KNOW THIS...the results are critically tied to the skill level of the surgeon. So the severity of the side effects you may face will be very reliant on your surgeons skills. Ask your doctor what his success rate is. Good luck.

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    I have heard that your sex drive is non existant once you have had it removed I am dur to start on hormone therapy when i get back to Australia on 24th of August then start radiotheraphy and i heard that has the same effects
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      John, I heard it's not in every patient... My doctor stated that my sex drive has a high

      Percentage of returning

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    There is a good chance that you will lose sexual function longer than you would want to. Sorry
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      My other half would not have had his prostate removed for this reason. Our consultant said "you WILL be impotent" it may not be forever. Please don't think it won't happen to you. You will also be incontinent, but hopefully not for long. Start your pelvic floor exercises now. My other half went for brachy instead. Though he has suffered side effects worse than anyone else we have known. (Prostatitis and radiation induced cystitis)

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      It could help but nothing is guaranteed I will find out myself in a month or two as I am having my prostate removed on August 30th . There's a long list of things that you can do and use including injections available. I know that I am going to try everything. You need to have these conversations with your doctor and include in those questions his experience with the nerve sparing surgery that he is performing on you and how many he has done

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      How many times he has done it. Sorry I pressed send before proofreading my text
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    Well you should first get your priorities in order think about a successful outcome first then all the other stuff will return!

    think if yu wish to have more children etc not possible after surgery!

    Sex well yes but it doesn't come back to quickly work at it but the desire will return and with some tender encouraging help from your partner yu will have success.

    Nerve sparing surgery is more favorable for a successful sex life.

    But for me the desire to live a little longer was more IMPORTANT!

    Good luck

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      We are all different and our priorities are different too! I chose not to have surgery.
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      The slight danger with No surgery is its still there!! Successful surgery nerve sparing with a Good surgeon can have a better outcome in the long term. I bet that. Stirs the pot!

      Yes all treatment can have a good ending but when it's out it's OUT!

      I am two years clear touch wood can have erecting profile when the mood is right! Minimal VERY MINIMAL drops under stress on the bike, and more Important I am ALIVE! The alternative is a hole in the ground or in my case the given!

      I think people should be more positive come on guys Man Up

      I am 66 in good health and had my surgery in Germany after leaving the Services Army 40 yrs

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      I don't agree with when its out its out. If you read statistics on return of prostate cancer after treatment they are the same with removal and radiotherapy. It's the same chance of return whichever treatment you chose. If you have it removed and the cancer returns you can have radiotherapy. But if you have radiotherapy and it returns then treatment may be limited if you can't have more radiotherapy. If you have it removed and they find it has spread then you may have to have radiotherapy as well. Meaning removal was a waste of time. So I'd say swings and roundabouts.

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      That is great news for you! I'm very happy you're in good health. But for a younger man I don't mind it still being there. I monitor it regularly. I'm in good health, too! And don't have any problems with the diagnosis. As a matter of fact, I forget I even have it sometime until my doctor's office call with an appt reminder. We chose different paths, but hopefully will end up in the same place... a long happy life.

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      Well at least there is an avenue open if it returns what's the next step if the first therapy fails or it returns and not contained!

      Good luck to ALL

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