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I am scheduled to have my prostate remove at the beginning of next month.. Can anyone tell me if my sex life will possibly stay the same , decrease, or increase???? Also, I'm a 47 years young in very good health
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alfred5 andrew68876
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As far as I know from reading people's stories on the Prostate cancer U.K. site, you won't get any erections after surgery. If you look on that site you can read lots of people's stories. Some men recover after a while, others not at all. But your age will help. Please don't go into this thinking it won't happen to you. Be prepared. Good luck.
winn16126 andrew68876
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dave08450 andrew68876
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miketytus andrew68876
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had my prostate removed just over two years ago. My erections came back but when on top they faded quickly. Use a tablet an hour befog sex and that works for me. Sexual activity is as it was befor just not spontaneous.
The time it takes to recover is very individual and you need to be patient. I had nerve sparing on one side only and was aged 55
Have blood tests very 6 months. All ok so far.
Best of luck
andrew68876 miketytus
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Hay miketytus, thanks for your advice... I'm a little nervous but know I will be okay. Thanks again
ES28567 andrew68876
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Why are you having A prostatectomy? Is the cancer in several areas? There are alternatives which have much better chances of saving you from ED and incontinences. The path you are on will cause ED for upto 2 years or longer or maybe even forever. You may have problems with controlling or holding back urine and need pads. Your penis will be about 1/4 to 1/2 inch shorter (no one tells you this unless you ask). You better do your research before you jump on the surgery table because you need to know BEFORE your surgery the success rate AND all possible side effects. Checkout HIFU (and other options). You don't want to set yourself up for buyers remorse. If you decide to move forward with a prostatectomy KNOW THIS...the results are critically tied to the skill level of the surgeon. So the severity of the side effects you may face will be very reliant on your surgeons skills. Ask your doctor what his success rate is. Good luck.
john47646 andrew68876
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andrew68876 john47646
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John, I heard it's not in every patient... My doctor stated that my sex drive has a high
Percentage of returning
mark_fastco andrew68876
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andrew68876 mark_fastco
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alfred5 andrew68876
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My other half would not have had his prostate removed for this reason. Our consultant said "you WILL be impotent" it may not be forever. Please don't think it won't happen to you. You will also be incontinent, but hopefully not for long. Start your pelvic floor exercises now. My other half went for brachy instead. Though he has suffered side effects worse than anyone else we have known. (Prostatitis and radiation induced cystitis)
mark_fastco andrew68876
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It could help but nothing is guaranteed I will find out myself in a month or two as I am having my prostate removed on August 30th . There's a long list of things that you can do and use including injections available. I know that I am going to try everything. You need to have these conversations with your doctor and include in those questions his experience with the nerve sparing surgery that he is performing on you and how many he has done
mark_fastco alfred5
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Whiteplume andrew68876
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Well you should first get your priorities in order think about a successful outcome first then all the other stuff will return!
think if yu wish to have more children etc not possible after surgery!
Sex well yes but it doesn't come back to quickly work at it but the desire will return and with some tender encouraging help from your partner yu will have success.
Nerve sparing surgery is more favorable for a successful sex life.
But for me the desire to live a little longer was more IMPORTANT!
Good luck
winn16126 Whiteplume
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Whiteplume winn16126
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The slight danger with No surgery is its still there!! Successful surgery nerve sparing with a Good surgeon can have a better outcome in the long term. I bet that. Stirs the pot!
Yes all treatment can have a good ending but when it's out it's OUT!
I am two years clear touch wood can have erecting profile when the mood is right! Minimal VERY MINIMAL drops under stress on the bike, and more Important I am ALIVE! The alternative is a hole in the ground or in my case the given!
I think people should be more positive come on guys Man Up
I am 66 in good health and had my surgery in Germany after leaving the Services Army 40 yrs
alfred5 Whiteplume
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I don't agree with when its out its out. If you read statistics on return of prostate cancer after treatment they are the same with removal and radiotherapy. It's the same chance of return whichever treatment you chose. If you have it removed and the cancer returns you can have radiotherapy. But if you have radiotherapy and it returns then treatment may be limited if you can't have more radiotherapy. If you have it removed and they find it has spread then you may have to have radiotherapy as well. Meaning removal was a waste of time. So I'd say swings and roundabouts.
winn16126 Whiteplume
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That is great news for you! I'm very happy you're in good health. But for a younger man I don't mind it still being there. I monitor it regularly. I'm in good health, too! And don't have any problems with the diagnosis. As a matter of fact, I forget I even have it sometime until my doctor's office call with an appt reminder. We chose different paths, but hopefully will end up in the same place... a long happy life.
Whiteplume alfred5
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Well at least there is an avenue open if it returns what's the next step if the first therapy fails or it returns and not contained!
Good luck to ALL
Whiteplume winn16126
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