Premature Ejaculation? from Young age.

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Hi,

My age is 29. I think I started masturbation around my age ~16. I am still a virgin. I am not a hardcore masturbator, I masturbate around 1 or 2 times in a week, in some weeks I don't do that too.. I don't have any bad habits like smoking, drinking..

Now, the problem is, Since the day I started I cum within seconds like around 5-30 seconds ( Since age 16. ). I don't know what is the issue, is there any treatment or it will cure itself after my marriage?

Please advice. Whom should I consult means, which specialist doctor, etc.,

Regards,

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  • Posted

    You'd have to make every effort to prolong that so that when you have an intimate relationship you can please your partner before you cum. There are exercises you can do to prolong your erection slowly. Do a search on google.

  • Posted

    Hi Arnold,

    Are you taking any medications?  Some can interfere with erections and ejaculations, so perhaps there are some in reverse.  Think about all of your habits, diet, etc., and see if you pick up on something.

    My theory:  Mastrubation is easy, no chase, no foreplay, just stroke and it does what it is supposed to do.  I don't think you are doing it too much at all, but after a while we, in a sense, train our bodies to do what it's used to doing.

    Check out "edging" online and see if you can do it that way.  Change things up... different hand, different location, different position, something.

    Also, I guess you could try doing it daily and see if you are "less charged."  I know some guys who will jack before a date so they are "running on empty" not "locked and loaded" when things get serious later.

    It is not uncommon, sometimes it's temporary, don't let it stress you into a different problem.  There are worse things!

    Good luck!

    • Posted

      Hi,

      I didn't take any medications at all.. I don't know why that happen.. Need to check that with doctor.. I think need to check a Urinary specialist. smile

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    Hi Real Arnold,

    There is something about your post that has "judgement" (of self) expressed throughout it.  The fact that you are 29 and a virgin.  The fact that you are not a hardcore masturbator.  And, now, that you come withing 5 - 30 seconds proves that there is something definately wrong with you.

    Quite frankly, from my perspective, there is a hell of a lot RIGHT about you, but you are haunted by what I can only imagine is a 'cultural dark cloud' that can only really be created by your mind strutures of what is right and wrong.  I'm curious, where do you live.  Me?  Liberal Massachusetts USA.

    The fact that you 29 is reason that you cum so quickly.  Give yourselve 20 years and the story will be different.   At your age Mother Nature wants you to be a breeding machine and back when your body parts were invented you had to get the job done quickly in fear that you are attached by a lion (or something just as worse).

    So who are you comparing yourself to?  Where are the beliefs coming from that makes you so critical of yourself?  

    Since I don't know you I'm taking to liberty to say that you sound like a truama victim to some degree.  Either emotional, physical or sexual trauma maybe when you were young.

    Since age 16 you have been doing something that every kid your ad is doing but, maybe 10 times more.  And, you think there is something not so cool about it.  And the fact that it seems to be working REAL well you are, now, pathologizing it.

    Are you a very religious Christian or something?

    If you are this critical of yourself in other areas of your life you don't stand a chance to be happy because you won't allow it.  

    If you cum to quickly try to masturbate right after you've done it the first time.  Guaranteed you will cum machine will respond slower.

    I wish you the very best.  It sounds like you will be fine, that is, as long as you lighten up on yourself. Dave L

    • Posted

      Arnold,

      Don't be put off by Dave's comments (if it ever occured to you) because I believe he is absolutely objective and makes some very good points.

      -K

    • Posted

      Hi Dave,

      Thanks I understand, Yes something definitely wrong with me, need to check that with a Urinary specialist. I am from India, Christian. But I don't think you those parameters needed.

      Thanks for the encouragemental words smile All will be best, I hope I will be better smile

  • Posted

    Hi Arnold,

    Please don't take my comments as being critical.  if anything, maybe I'm projecting my experience of being so damn self judging.  There has been some good comments, here, Thank you for bringing this discussion to the all of us.

     

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