Preventing shrinkage of the vaginal opening

Another aspect of atrophy is shrinkage of the size of the vaginal introitus. I was down to two fingers after two years of treatment and celibacy (with two damaging episodes of sex during that time). In a fun little experiment with my fingers last week I managed to tear the edge a tiny bit, like less than 1/4". I started applying ointment nightly (I usually go twice a week) and when I looked closely yesterday I realized that what had torn was a small scar that had sort of pinned a folded the edge of my perineum (I think that's called the fourchette) and it had opened out to where it was two years ago. The triangle exposed is pink skin, not LS white crap. So, I'm continuing nightly for a few more days and lots of coconut oil. And, by gum, these fingers are going to keep that from happening again. Why wait till you're prescribed a set of dilators and why have irritating, friction-intensive intercourse when we can use our own fingers to stretch just enough to keep the edges from scarring closed? I was doing this in baking soda baths nightly a year ago, but my relationship had gotten so hopeless I thought, why am I trying to save sex? As long as I can pee when I'm 90, that'll do. Well, now I have the prospect of a good man treating my LS as his own personal 'cold case' (40 years of painful sex with insensitive men) I'm you-bet doing my homework!

Sorry to every one of you with whom I've been a cynical grump about sex for two years.

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